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If you're over weight do something about it.
If you're not, you're a shapely large girl, then find a guy that likes YOU just the way you are. It doesn't really matter what everybody else thinks - you just need ONE that will love you.
As an aside, by wife of 25 years is a 'big girl'. She always has been and always will be. There are many pluses for a shapely woman - I'm just not the type that likes the figure of a young boy - there's just nothing there for me.