I've dated guys from various cultures. But I noticed that western guys (Caucasian) in particular aren't really appreciative of a woman who caters to them. It's like they either think it's overly pleasing (needy? Or validation seeking) or just don't care about that. Why? Or do they just don't believe the woman when she says that's how she is?
Most Helpful Guy
Programming since age 6 in their first years of kindergarten. Taught that traditionalism is inherently bad.
This leads to polarization, beta males who are not attractive, or jerks who were supposed to be removed by the program. The nice guys find it hard to resist and either polarize or drop out entirely.
Some however have resisted but they have a hard time coming out of hiding. I am not perfect but I do appreciate what you describe and I'm still trying to improve.
Neomasculinity is the buzzword to look up though.2
Most Helpful Girl
It's appreciated at first but then it gets taken for granted.
It's just like everything else.
Appreciation is so important in a relationship.3