As a guy, how do you feel about being intensively pursued, romantically?
Have you ever been chased? Have you ever made someone chase you?
As a girl, have you ever chased a guy? How did he take it?
Most Helpful Guy
It's the word "intensively" that makes me pause. If a girl pursues a guy, will she pick up on hints if he is not interested and stop? Sad as it may be, girls have more experience saying "no" to someone they are not interested in. Since guys are used to pursuing someone they are interested in, they are usually not ready to be pursued, and don't know how to say no. In fact, they may not even be ready to say "yes"!
Let me explain it this way. A guy can be very indecisive. He doesn't know if he is interested in a girl or not. Finally he decides he is, decides he wants to focus on one instead of "keeping his options open," and then he moves in, starts to show interest, waits to see if she returns the interest, then asks her out, etc. But if a girl out of the blue asks him out, or starts pursuing him intensively, it can cause him to run, because even if he might have wanted to pursue her, it has taken him by surprise and he hadn't decided himself if he wants to stop looking around and focus just on her.
The best way for a girl to succeed is to show her interest in a guy, smile, flirt a little, touch his arm, etc. You are letting him know that you are interested and that his advances would be well received. Not only are you getting his attention, you are drawing his interest, and also removing his natural fear of rejection.3
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I doubt anyone on here wants to be pursued by someone that doesn't turn them on, someone who has issues, isn't attractive enough, or someone they think is a player and will dump them later. It sounds nice, but in reality it's not that great. You just feel bad when people call you shallow when you reject them due to personal preference or annoyed when they don't take a hint, or constantly worried that you're making the biggest mistake of your life.
As for when you actually see potential in the person chasing you... I've never experienced it.1
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