Are women pickier or are men just too easy?


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  • Standards-wise, I think that men and women are equally picky when it comes to finding an exclusive, long-term relationship partner.

    When it comes to finding a strictly temporary, no-strings-attached type arrangement (i. e., either a one-night-stand or a booty call/fling), I think that women are a bit pickier than men. Or, at least, this is where the gender differences in what we're picky in are really highlighted.

    When it comes to expressing interest and approaching a stranger--for whatever reason, be it platonic, romantic, or strictly sexual in intent--men are "easier" in the sense that they're more approachable and receptive to flirtation, and in the sense that they are more likely to attempt flirtation with a random stranger. Women, on the other hand, seem to have difficulty handing out a simple compliment, even to a guy that they do know.

    I wouldn't say that this makes men "easier", especially if you're out to find a serious partner, but it certainly leaves women with the impression that male interest is something to be taken for granted. If a woman is dying for an ego boost, she has a lot less effort to make to get one from the opposite sex than guys do.

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  • Both. Women can be picky because men are so easy. Men should stop being so easy. Stop putting women on pedestals. Constantly hitting on them, asking them, telling them how beautiful they are and things like that. It just feeds their ego. That's why a good majority of attractive women have narcissistic tendencies because they know they can get whatever they want from guys because men are so consumed in sexual desire.

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  • i think guys are easier to... attract. but much harder to actually get them to want to commit.

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  • I think mainly women are too easy. Just go take a look at the "How Do I Look?" section on here, almost all the guys on a girl's post are always giving her 9s or 10s and sucking up to her even if she looks like a thumb. It's pretty pathetic to see.

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    • Dang, men*. Men are too easy. Sorry

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    • Thats true but I wonder if men being pickier would cause attractive women to be less conceited as well. I doubt it I think women like that will always view themselves as some irreplaceable treasure.

    • in my opinion it would invoke a more agressive competitive mentality in women, equalizing the likely hood of attraction and approaches from girls onto guys.

  • I don’t get why so many people fail to comprehend this.

    Look at any species in the world. Who has the pick? The females.

    Let’s look at how we’re biologically designed to live: the best male and a few females. Now, most humans have evolved/are socially forced into monogamy. But still, the ultimate goal is reproduction. And for the best offspring, females will want to mate with the best males. In human language: someone with the desired looks and qualities.

    Males, however, only want to pass on their genes. That is their drive. Just to pass on genes. Nothing else. (Biologically speaking). So they’ll want to impregnate any female they see.

    Soo, in summary, males just wanna spread their genes while females want to get the best possible offspring. Therefore females seem to have high standards and males low ones.

    Secondly, I feel like a lot of men say someone’s standards are high, while they really are not. Men and women work differently. For example, most guys will be able to jack off to a single fucking nude. Most women will not even be able to do so with just porn. To get back to standards, lol, most women will have like a personality list and a looks list. It seems long and heavy, but a lot from the list is realistic. Someone with a sense of humour, taller than them.. etc. Men’s lists tend to be more unrealistic. (Big boobs, big butt, but a small waist. Pretty face. “Typical woman” without bekng dramatic. Etc)

    This is a bit of a weirdly arranged comment, lol, but it’s my opinion.

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    • Absolutely right answer. Most evolutionary biology supports this view. A slight caveat, though. Men want to pass their genes along but they need a female who is best adapted to doing so. That is why looks matter so much to a guy. The shape of the breasts, body size, etc. All of these are indicative of the female's ability to bear and sustain young.

      So it is NOT quite true that men are less picky. They may not be as picky, but it is a difference of degree, not one of kind.

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    • @Blake0048 i was thinking more of bad break ups and stuff.

    • Ohh ok... yeah and cheating. Well to be fair we get crazy too... id say most all men go through a phase where they hate women because of bad experiences

  • Women are hardwired to be pickier because from a biological point of view, women search for a perfect mate because if they get pregnant they need to ensure that their offspring will have diverse, healthy genes.
    If she messes this up, it could cost her 9 months worth of "nothing". While men can mate with anyone any time and don't need to be so picky about it since their purpose is to have as many children as possible with as many mates.

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  • There’s a stigma towards women who are easy. This is why men don’t usually play hard to get- because they can, without looking like a “slut” and a “whore” in society’s eyes. Pretty ridiculous.

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    • Tbh I have low respect for those type of men. I call them low life's or I put em on blast for who they fuck with.

    • It comes down to a lack of intelligence and a lack sell control-both are products of poor or non-existent raising-girls are often too shelteed and protected-they are denied knowledge and are protected from discipline.

  • Women are pickier because they have more options to pick from.

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    • Yet women somehow think dating is just as hard for them

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    • I asked out like 150 girls in the last 4 years, never even got a date, I'm always learning and improvising yet still can't get any girls to go out with me and I don't even go for the 9's and 10's, you must be right, I refuse to take the blame anymore

    • 150? Shit, I am fairly ugly and I still get a date after asking 2 or 3 girls

  • Oh I know a lot of guys who are picky. They don't just settle for less. I admire that. Quality over quantity. Same with women...

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  • I think both are pretty equal. I think can both be blinded by good looks sometimes :) but for long term relationships, I do think most people look for similar traits (loyal, trustworthy, loving, etc)

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  • I think guys are easier. Depends on the guy but in general I think they are

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  • Women are definitely pickier than men

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  • both.

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  • I think it depends on the individual.

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  • guys are to easy

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  • I think it's both for both of them.. to be honest.

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  • Women are pickier and men are easy too.

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  • Men are just too easy.

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  • Both are true.

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  • No. We're just more cautious.

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  • Something in between

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  • I think it's a redundant question.

    Of course there are many women who are also easy and/or terrible at selecting their partners and, fortunately, men who still have some standards (beyond the physical).

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What Guys Said 49

  • I once had a friend recite the expression "You've got to lower your standards if you want to lower your drawers!" I don't think that mentality is uncommon with guys who just want to get laid.

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  • Woman do what pleases man and man choose that kind of woman.
    I never look after a woman or go after a woman and I am not always thinking about a woman ofcourse. Woman that I know are not picky at all , they take what is easy to get.
    Man are selfish. They are not even good as friends.
    Man are ugly. The woman I know pick the evil man with no problem.
    Behavior of man and woman is many times repulsive.
    They think they are attractive being like a beast while they tell others they are wrong if they are a beast like they are jealous so they can not choose with what they want.
    It is always the whore/holy role they play but never the show what you like game.
    Because you might get hurt if you do that and end up as the rest did who gave their heart and were rejected after woods.
    Then man and woman say it is lust and not love.
    Then I think they like killers and are satanic and do as they want.
    But there are still a few good looking man and woman. Children in our world are also not cute anymore but repulsive at young age and they act as if they are adult ready for making out as if they are the best hookers ever.
    I do not like that to see in children but it is that way. And it has to do with the way parents raice their children.
    This world is a bit repulsive.
    Man and woman tell others what is allowed and what is not allowed. So if a woman is attractive that is not allowed because it make other woman jealous and they like to controll the world for that reason and tell man what woman they are allowed to like and what woman not.
    Woman are very controlling witches in reality and their caracter is very ugly. woman are just not humble but ugly agressive. And each day more. They do everything to have it easy and man spend their money on these evil woman and never on the good woman. So man are evil to when it comes to that for the future of society. I do not wish to be their son ever. For a daughter this is not a good world at all because if she is good her dreams will never come true and they tell her to live alone and lonely.
    So that is what you have to teach your daughters as a father.
    Between the father and mother is no romance and children grow up this way thinking it is normal.
    But in what country would it be great to live with what government if you want a normal healthy live style. I do not know many countries. So if anybody has a sugestion. I would like a country with no witches. And call their nature a beast. Sexuality is holy. So I go to that country. :)

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  • I certainly hope women are picky. They are going to give birth to the next generation and they better be picking a proper father with some solid genetics.

    For real though, it varies from person to person. Men have an innate desire to reproduce and fight hard for a family so it's understandable that we would be competing for every chance to spread our genes around. Little analogy mixed in there by the way.

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  • Women have more to lose, they can get pregnant and be dumped by their partner, theirfore many look for guys who would support them, rather than dump them. And us, men, obviously we are easy, there is a lot of competition for having a female partner, why play the game of been to hard to get?

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  • I observe men being very available as a default, and desperate in certain situations. Men sometimes like to think that women are judgmental (which in some ways is true) but at the end of the day there is still a reason a woman said no, and there's still a reason a man said yes.

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  • Both really. I do find that women tend to want more from men than the other way around, in terms of what they look for. Whereas men I think are more likely to be desperate and willing to sleep with just about anyone. These are just generalisations though of course.

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  • Lol, well it is kind of a same thing.
    I know a lot of men who "fall in love" 3 times a week and would settle for anything.

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  • Both. Men are incredibly easy to get (saying this as a semi-bi guy) meanwhile women are used to being chased while they display no initiative of their own.

    If men refuse to chase we would probably see a dynamic shift but that just is not going to happen.

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  • I think I'm pretty easy. There's little I dislike.

    But, if guys were as picky as girls, then there would be less relationships. If girls were as easy as guys, there would be more relationships. Since more relationships are good, then maybe girls are too picky?

    Or, maybe it can't be answered 'cause it's like asking "Is 10 too much more than 5, or is 5 too much less than 10?"

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  • When I was younger I wouldn't give it much thought. A woman wants to share for the night, I'll take it. When it was time to build my family I stopped having anything to do with most women until I met my wife. I was very picky at that point.

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  • Both. Men's easiness allows women to be picky, and women's pickiness makes guys feel lucky and become easy

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  • Men are naturally more easy goin when it comes to that stuff, whereas women are more pickier, and selective with who they let approach, or talk to them in a romantic sense..

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  • I'm very picky and won't just settle for any woman! For me there needs to be chemistry and a connection to persue anything further when it comes to dating.

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  • I wish I knew, I have always been a keeper, but somehow, girls can not recognize it. I showed them that I was worthy, but I guess you need to speak it. I was very quit.

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  • Some men are tragically easy and pursue everything and give men in general a bad name. In my experience and people I'm around day to day this is just not the case at all

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  • Depends on the individuals. Some men are picky (I am).

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  • Men because of their sexual needs will usually marry even a homely woman if she's the only one that can stand him.

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  • Women are very picky. They always have 3 or 4 guys after them whether they know it or not.

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  • If women are so picky... Why is that single mother's number is rising every year?

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  • When it comes to a sexual relationship, men in general are easy and we are not picky and don't have very high standards.

    When it comes to a long term relationship, men in general become a bit more pickier. Hence why women lament, men will not commit.

    What we want in a sex buddy, are not the things we necessary want in a long term partner. Which is why a lot of women find that the perfect sexfriend, has a tendency to vanish from her life when she starts trying to have the where is this relationship going conversation.

    Women in general have the same standards for a sexfriend, as they do for a long term relationship. As most look at every relationship they get in, as being a possible long term relationship.

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