How can I initiate a conversation with a guy without seeming needy?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Ffs just swallow your pride and go say hi. It really isn't that big a deal. Or would you rather waste your prime years avoiding human contact so you become socially retarded so no guy will want to be with you and wonder why you end up as a crazy cat lady one day.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • You can find something in common to talk about. But tbh i feel like you shouldn't initaite the whole time, you need to get some reciprocities. unbalanced relationships never work that well ( from experience )

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What Guys Said 28

  • By starting the conversation! Guys absolutely love and adore it when women initiate conversation. Society puts a lot of pressure on men to initiate something with women and while men are happy doing so to get what they want, women deserve it too! Starting a conversation for literally no reason isn't needy, it's showing that you want to talk to this guy more. He'll love it! You have to trust me, he will! Good luck!

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  • Why exactly do you think starting a conversation makes you feel "needy"? Just like you, he needs attention and people to talk to. We are social creatures and he may just appreciate that someone is giving him some healthy conversation. Just talk to him. There is no such thing as needy with a simple conversation...

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  • that's a stupid question, just talk to the guy. It won't make you needy or anything, just normal. Just stay true to yourself and things generally come out for the better. Worrying whether or not is needy can end up giving signs of yourself being needy.

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  • This is gping to spund a little circular, but the most likely way to sound needy is tp be wprried about sounding needy. Best bet would be to talk about something going on in immediate surroundings. Dont try initiating based on what you think would be common interests... that's a key to an awkward conversation. Get there naturally, organically... let conversation guide you to what interests the 2 of you

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  • Just speak to him when he's not distracted or not into something. Don't speak to him right after he gets home/off from work, that's if it's a serious conversation. Men usually need to do something to unwind first before getting into a serious conversation.

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  • Dont worry about it and just go for it. Most guys would love a girl to show interest what so ever. Only women have hair trigger "needy" detectors and think in those terms.

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  • Just go up to him and make small talk. Don't think too much about it. If the guy is insecure, immature, and arrogant he'll make a big deal out of. But if he's not, you'll be fine.

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  • As long as you don't beg him to talk to you it won't come across as needy.

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  • Be confident. If you can be confident in yourself you wouldn't have to ask advice. You could just sort of do it.

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  • Do something near them or something that involves them and there's a good chance they will start a conversation.

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  • You can talk to him in any way you want, but ultimately he decides (at least in his own mind) of its needy or not.

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  • Talk to him and ask him about things such as hobbies, interest etc.

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  • Ask casually, and Be clear about your "needs" (if you have). Because you should pick a guy for your Needs. Because thats just selfish act. Which will lead you to So called 'Breakup'.

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  • Just walk up and talk normally, and don't sound needy. That is, keep it light and friendly at first.

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  • Talk about common topics, like on here, talk about featured questions or takes.

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  • Being up something that you and him have in common and branch off from there.

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  • Start off casual then move away from casual but most importantly just start talking

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  • Start of as curious person as them to fix something for you. Act clumsy around them.

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  • Seduce him show u curves and try to touch him like unintentional touch. Rest automatically happen

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  • Wait until he does something odd, or abnormal. Confront him about it when you get the chance.

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  • Just say hi and be honest

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  • By kissing him.

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  • Just say anything.

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  • By saying Hi.

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  • By saying hello.

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  • by doing it

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  • Show him your butthole

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  • Like most girls - eventually get around to asking him for some money.

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What Girls Said 4

  • if he thinks you're needy bc you talk to him, he either isn't interested in anything or isn't interested i you & you shouldn't waste your time.

    be you & take it from there.

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    • You talking first is the same as a guy talking first it’s just like some women... some men are too shy to talk first nobody worth your time will think you’re needy.

    • @MrMist

      yup. i agree. :)

  • Just speak to him as you speak to someone in the street, it isn’t hard. Just ask him how is Day is going.

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  • Just talk to him. I don't think people normally relate talking to needs unless you slip in innuendos every line you say

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  • Talk about something that you might both like like an upcoming football game , or food , or beer

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