Okay, so let's start off with I totally trust my boyfriend. He was in his last relationship for 15 years, ending in a divorce. That being so, I expect his to have lots of things which were gifts from his ex and a whole house full of memories (this I do not care about). When I was searching for some hand lotion in a little basket on his dresser, I saw he had one of those "why I love you" books from her. I did not read it and I did not get upset. I placed it on the dresser in the hopes that he would see it and get rid of it (because maybe he forgot). However, when searching for socks I saw he moved it to a new location. I am so hurt and upset. It's not like it's something like clothes or something like that. This is a specific token of how much she loved him. Am I crazy for being upset and hurt that he did not get rid of it, but moved it?
Most Helpful Guy
"I placed it on the dresser in the hopes that he would see it and get rid of it"
Big mistake. You're not wrong for the way you feel, however you're best asking him about this. And in a way that emphasizes your understanding for why he would do such a thing. I'm not saying your feelings aren't valid, just please listen to him as intently as you'd like him to listen to you on this.3
Most Helpful Girl
Rather than getting upset about something that you don't understand maybe you talk to him about it. I don't feel it's my place to ask somebody to get rid of something that is theirs. I would voice my opinion absolutely but I feel it's important to respect their decision even when I don't agree with it.2