I personally hate myself and will only ever love myself if a guy ever falls in love with me. The phrase is saying that I and others like myself will never be able to be happy or find love. That’s real assuring.
“Love yourself before someone else can love you” is such an outdated and untrue phrase?
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The saying is absolutely critical. If you don't love yourself, then you are insecure and that will show in how you relate to others. That means, you won't be treated the same as if you were confident and self-assured. Being confident makes you far more aluring and desirable. The best way to work on that is trying to get others to smile. Do nice things for them or make them laugh. That will build confidence and take you in the right direction.1
I always thought it was bullshit as I have never even liked myself and the only thing that makes me feel better is when someone pays attention to me/likes me. However after endless long term relationships that never last because of me... I am actually starting to believe it. Thinking of trying to be alone soon and I'll let you know1
I have to completely agree with you. Some people... Okay all people will do much more for others than they will do for themselves and even will cause themselves distress to appease and help someone else. Now who does this to themselves, Come on now? That saying is only an excuse for somebody to say to someone who is in love with them and they don't feel the same way. It's an excuse to continue the relationship yet be able to say I don't love you though because I don't even love myself and I have to learn to love myself before I can love others. Jesus love the way that human mind and make excuses to it's self and get away with it. There's no reason to not love yourself there's no reason and not love. The only reason people use excuses because they are too fucking lazy to make the effort and find out the solutions to the problems or too fucking0
This phrase is actually very true. If you're not in tune with who you are, there must be some character traits of yours that you subconsciously want to get rid of. And if you ever find some guy who LOVES those traits you find annoying, the more you'll be succeeding in eliminating them, the more you'll be robbing your parnter of this reason to love you.1
It a really awesome quote... U should learn to love urself no Matter what... Loving yourself is the best thing to do... If you don't love yourself how can u expect anyone else to love u... And if u don't love yourself than in almost all cases the guys will need u to change some things about u that is the best thing about u and u will change it coz u don't love urself... U will have a low self esteem and the guy may use you or take u for granted... Loving yourself is the best thing u can do...1
Well it's a bit true. People want happiness in their life. Most people (including me) would prefer a person who smiles and shares happiness instead of someone who is just sad cause that makes others sad too and nobody want to be sad. Sure you can find someone who loves you even when you don't love yourself but imagine if that makes you confident and you start loving yourself it would make you a other person and maybe that's a person you lover can't deal with. Also why can't you love yourself first?0
I disagree with that statement completely. I seriously don't lime myself. My girlfriend definitely doesn't like herself all that much either. But me and my girlfriend have been happily together for 8 months now. I always put her first and do everything i can to make her happy because I love her and she does the same for me. No being with her doesn't make me like myself any more or less, but having someone that does care about me as much as she does definitely makes things a lot better and more positive in my life.0
Just because someone else loves you doesn't automatically make you love yourself, you are more likely to not believe they find you attractive and drive them away with your insecurity which is why the saying exists.0
I feel the exact same way.0
Do you really hate everything about yourself? Because my burning self hate is only there for parts of me I'm not okay with. Things I like to change but never seem to have time for.0
I know I've been repulsive with such negativity about myself and it has been perceived in a differet way: in an attractive way. Sometimes it's weird what's happening.0
Totally true. I can't like a girl who doesn't like herself. It's very unattractive. Bottom line1
No that's wrong way to approach it
You can't depend on a person loving you
There will be people hating you what will you do then?
Accept yourself first
Depending on others can be very problematic1
Actually, it is saying that it shows in your life. Your eyes will glow. Your walk will reflect it. Your attitude. Your attention to personal grooming habits. (Trust me on this one)0
The phrase is meant to look for validation in yourself not from someone else. Even if you don't like yourself right now, one day you could. You can always improve yourself.0
What do u mean dat its outdated. Its d ultimate truth. 'honesty is the best policy' is an ancient phrase, dat doesn't mean u will practice dishonesty cos d phrase is outdated.0
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