Most Helpful Girl
I'm going to tell you like I had to coach my close friend before she found her husband. Get your priorities in order. It's good to focus on bettering yourself. But when you're looking for a 'marriage partner', you have to know THY Self. Because you are who you attract most of the time.
You had flings before. That's going to work against you if your not a virgin. Because now you're saying you WANT MARRIAGE. And studies have shown those who had premarital sex have a high risk for divorce. YOU have to get this straighten out first if you expect t have a successful relationship leading to a successful marriage. It's going to be hard. Now since you didn't go into detail about these 'flings', I'll leave it for you to figure out what you know about marriage. You have to understand what it entitles and the sacrifices you will have to make as equally as the person who also desires what you do. Especially concerning sex.
You need to know what her faith is, values are, her beliefs, principals, morals, etc. You cannot play games thinking it's all about physical attraction, fun and games, having sex before marriage, etc. Because if you already think it is, then your best to just either stay single or don't get married. Especially if you aren't willing to put your home, career, finances, and all of your material possessions at risk, OTHER than your mind, body soul, heart and most importantly, your dignity. Because you have to many women who ho around because they assume that all men what that. And fail. And it's because they fail over and over again, they now grow resentful, and spiteful, and sadly often times lacks forgiveness. How can they love you when they've been messing around with many and can't even know who they are themselves? Think about this really hard before you ever think about stepping foot in dating. Let alone modern dating or marriage. You don't want to rush into anything your not prepared to jump into. Start out as friends first. Get to know each other for a while. Express your interest, desires and, intentions. But don't lie to them. Don't make promises you can't keep.
The problem also is that if you didn't take things seriously before, it's going to be extremely difficult for you to do so when you date or get married. Other than that, if you have further questions, you can reply back or message if your able.
Most Helpful Guy
The most important thing you can do is make sure that your work and schooling don't take all your free time, and become the main focus in your life. Many relationships and marriages fail because people put too much focus on their job at the expense of their family. Talk to family and friends for a honest opinion of the things you need to work on to be in a relationship.