Most Helpful Guy
That's a minefield, this question. No offense though :)
No, I wouldn't say it's my job to ask her out and not vice versa. I'd love to get asked out.
That being said, most people who have asked me out till date have turned out pretty weird and at times harmful.
And a large number of people I have met are pretty desperate and creepy in real life. Take that as you will.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's not the asking out that's the problem. Any one of you can ask the other out. Just make sure that none of you are actually creepy.
Most Helpful Girl
I was honest with my boyfriend that I would have made the first move if I were more sure about everything, and he told me that it would have been a major turn off for him because that's a "man's job", so...
As for your last question, men aren't seen as desperate when approaching because through that they show confidence and being assertive, straightforward is attractive in men, while most men want feminine, shy women, which is the opposite of approaching.