I miss the guy that ghosted me?

So long story short. I met this guy on a dating app. He was super nice and respectful towards me. We liked the same things and texted for a week straight. I really started to like him. A few days in, he suggested to met me and yes I was terrified but really trusted him. We met at a coffee shop about a week later after texting constantly everyday. I was super excited but scared you know? The date was kinda awkward cause I’m a shy person but overall it was good. I texted him once after the date but he seemed super distant. He never texted me after that. I learned the hard way that he ghosted me. It’s been a few weeks and don’t think of him that much. But at times I still really miss him. We had a really great bond and maybe not the best chemistry but I definitely felt like I was talking to a really great friend. Before I was kinda going through a rough patch and talking to him felt refreshing. It really sucks that he just disappeared like that. I know I shouldn’t text him and annoy him. Any advice?

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  • You have to take what you learned. You might need to have a handful of failures because you need practice. Learn what to say, what to do, where to focus your eyes, how you gesture, etc. I'm as shy as can be, my voice shakes and everything I do shakes around certain people. Jokes I have cued up in my head, practiced and ready to go fall apart, but as I keep meeting people and keep practicing it all falls together. So that's my advice about handling shyness and awkwardness.
    As for missing the guy, well just think of the guy as a lesson learned. He didn't think you were worth his time, why is he able to rent a room in your mind? He's out, there's another nice guy out there who has even better attributes so take what you learned and get on with your life.

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  • Most people on dating sites keep their options open. The rapport you had with him , will be the same for other girls who chat to him. He wouldn't have been talking to you exclusively, and he will probably be meeting up with other girls too. He'll ghost those he no longer wants to meet up with. You have to be prepared for rejection when you meet guys on dating sites.

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  • Been there before. As much as it sucks, there's nothing you can do about it. He might reply or might not, but either way, he clearly doesn't want to be in contact with you anymore.

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  • Follow your heart

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  • How many times have you texted him?

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    • just once after the date

    • If it's been a few months, you can try to randomly text him something like this made me think of you! But if he doesn't reply to that either, act like he's dead to you.

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