Most Helpful Guy
I used to search. I've stopped. Too much hurt from the abusive manner too many ladies go about rejecting. My career is not worth pursuing you.
Ladies, you're the ones with the most to gain and the least to lose from pursuing. You do it. This culture makes it too risky for a man to do anything but wait.
Most Helpful Girl
Neither, I just live everyday that I can without focusing on trying to find someone or wanting someone to come to me. I have found that being this way makes you be ina more natural behaviour and that ends up attracting people in the most surprising moments and ways