Guys highly encourage me to go to a club or party and just ask a girl out.
I never wanted to do that because I had no interest in strangers.
Personally, when I am approaching a girl then trying to be little friendly and comfortable and such, but then try to go for a date. It's just a lot of work and no fun.
It's because it's like I meet a person who is very stuck up, very fake, and full of expectations. Like a cringy job interview and it's tense and hella boring at the same time.
People would also say just date strangers but focus on me and for the sex.
So if I went on a date with a stranger, and she totally has terrible political views, philosophical views, and its just hard to have a decent conversation with her to know her and just her only, like what she likes, what she does for fun and etc. I just got to remain calm, focus on me, and see if I can get into her panties. I just find it idiotic.
Then if we have sex, she is all latchful and full of more expectations from me. Then I am stuck with a person who I hate, dislike and was a total waste of time. Then its like I feel more of a douche trying to get my way with her then kick her to the curb when I am done with her.
I had a lot of thought into this. I like to be friends with girls to know them more then upgrade into relationships.
However, they are so fast with getting into a relationship. This is about average but I somehow keep meeting girls in their end stage of a relationship, and they would try to use me as a rebound after like a 30-minute conversation with them and I am like hell no.
After a few weeks or a month or so of knowing them. I see that they are really fun to be around with eventually after I know them it's too late by then. They find a douchey dude and kick me to the curb.
Any advice I guess?