I’ve been dating this guy for 6 months now, but I’ve known him for a long time (small town). I never had heard anything about him being into drugs... when we first got together he told me he’s always wanted to experiment with a few different drugs. I was like, okay? That should be fine, like shrooms, acid and stuff like that, and only in moderation. So now we’re very much so in love. However, 2 months ago he got into coke, he was doing a lot, and told me he felt addicted. I told him if he does it again I’m leaving him. So a few weeks went by, he hadn’t done it and he hated the side effects that came with it. He hated how badly he had hurt me and our relationship. Fast forward to about a week ago; my boyfriend was leaving for work and I asked him “are you doing any drugs?” He said no.
I was in his room alone later that day and was trying to find my necklace. I ended up coming across a few items that indicated he had coke. I knew it couldn’t be from last time because (out of anger and hurt) I threw everything away. So I texted him and told him to be honest, he said he had done it once again. Now I really do love this guy, and I see us doing great things in life together. However, now he’s broken my trust, hurt our relationship, lied, taken money from our shared funds, and jeopardized our relationship. We’ve talked about this a lot. He says sorry, but I tell him that doesn’t mean anything anymore. I told him how I feel, how I should be leaving and how I don’t deserve this. He agrees, but we both want to stay together and make it work. I’ve decided to give him another chance. He promises it won’t happen again, and says he loves me. I told him “if you love me you wouldn’t betray me like this” he says he wasn’t thinking when he did it, he was just stoked on the idea of getting high.
So help me out, give me some advice, and don’t be rude about it. Thank you
(Also no I’m not 17, the app glitches when i was creating it)
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My boyfriend is a recovering addict. He overdosed on heroin ( was probably laced with fentanyl) in October. It took 3 doses of narcan to revive him. He has been on a program since. We also live in a small town so didn't take long for everyone to find out. I knew he did drugs recreationally when we got together but not this. Its a terrible road to travel with someone. A lot of resentment, hurt and fear of whats next. The choice to stay is hard, he may continue, he might stop, its up to you what you can deal with. And its up to him to stop, you cannot convince him, he needs to convince himself.
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