Opinion on long distance? does it work?


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  • I've done this and it was a hell for me.
    I would say - it depends.
    If you two have been in short distance before and already have a stable relationship then yeah it's kind of possible.
    If you are in distance since the beginning that's a much harder thing.

    It depends also on the age of you two and what are you looking for in your life now. E. g. if you both are young then it's also difficult. My ex LDR broke up with me because he wanted to make his life first and having an LDR was too heavy for him because he wanted to use his 'young life'. Not because of girls or sex but in general he wanted to focus on himself, his uni, work, and dreams.

    If long distance is going to be just for a short time - e. g. some internship, or few months of work, etc. It might work.
    But if you are unsure about everything then a whole relationship is really fragile. I was living in fear every day because I couldn't know what is happening in my bf's life, when we are going to see each other next time and if we ever will.

    If you can avoid LDR - do it, please.

    Even tho I have to say this kind of relationship taught me really a lot. Because you know how important is a presence of the other person, not any material thing.

    You might give it a try but I have to say it's difficult and it's not getting easier with a time.

    For me whenever we meet and then again we have to say goodbye was very painful and full of tears days. I hope I will never have to go back to this.

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  • My lady and I have been together for close to three years, now. She is, by far, my favorite human. But our relationship has been spent longer away from each other than in the same place, and the last time I was able to see her was in July. But I have never been so sure of another person in my entire life (except my mother, 'cause she's awesome).

    What it boils down to is whether you decide they are worth the wait or not. It's pretty simple to see how much a person is worth, but the choice lies with you. Similarly, that choice lies with your partner, too. Just like you have to make that choice, they have to make theirs. So on top of having confidence in your decision, be a woman that your partner can be confident in. Make clear efforts to communicate, be transparent and honest, find thing you can hold each other accountable for (like diet, exercise, habbits, etc.), And ALWAYS encourage each other and be supportive :)

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  • I think long-distance relationships only work if you know when you'll be physically together again. When the long distance is open-ended, each person has no idea when they'll be able to be with the other again, and I think they start to feel like that time might never come, and look elsewhere (close-by) for that affection.

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  • If it never works for you at short distance, shouldn't try the long one. But for the long one you should be prepared for the worst. Cheating is the most common trouble. Being wise to cope all the kinds of troubles with any kind of relationships helps a lot.

    Most of the young people cry "everybody's a bastard and I'm the only honest one" and break up all the time. They don't even realize, that it's an endless loop and they are also not honest.

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  • Depends on the circumstances and the personalities. It can work, but there has to be like a plan for getting together at some point that you are both actively working on, otherwise hopelessness sets in.

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  • I'm going through it right now. But only because it is temporary. I couldn't live without him.

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  • I don't know of any that worked except military ones and most of the ones I know of had some cheating involved.

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  • it works until one of the two finds someone else closer. Been there, done that.

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  • Typically not the distance restricts the relationship to be intimate and to develop

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  • Works only if there is trust in it

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  • It can become quite tiresome.

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  • 8 out of 10 times it dont work

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  • No it doesn't

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  • Do not do it !!! Please don’t

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