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That's a very good question... I wish I had asked that when I was your age.
Crushing, "being in love" and obsession are all forms of Love. But from different levels of energy and polarities... (i know it sounds dorky lol)
ANYWAYS... we've all been here
there's that guy and girl who just walked out of starbucks... finger in his nose... and you're like "omg I think i like them" you find out they are in your class and giggle about them and develop a few feelings for them...
this is a crush... you don't ACTUALLY know anything about them BUT you want to... but a crush can crush you because sometimes you find out they are completely the opposite of what you thought,... which is why you should never sit on a crush... instead go after it and see if you can take it further... to "being in love"
being in love... is a romantic type of love, USUALLY it comes with time but you can also feel a bit of it from good vibes... like you two just connect... after talking of course. Instead of like being on a date for the hell of it... it usually comes by accident... like you go on a date to try to get to know them and notice you have a lot in common or a lot not in common tat compliments each other... but it doesn't have to be a date. it can just be talking to a person and after a while realizing you can't get them off your mind... the last girl i fell in love with was after i argued with her and we stopped talking... and then i realized that it was months later and i was STILL talking and thinking about her lol...
both the crush and "being in love" are forms of positive energy... they are good for you, they release good chemicals in your brain and body. although the crush is based a bit more on not knowing and more on instant attraction (which is good sometimes)
anyways... with obsession, you do indeed love the person BUT for a negative reason usually.. usually you love them because they fill some void in you, maybe you didn't get enough hugs or were bullied a lot or abandoned and really want a person like them to fill that gap... maybe you learned love as a child through two abusive spouses who hit each other and then developed that need for yourself, maybe you have this idea of the person that is soooo ideal and perfect in your head that you latched onto it soo hard that you "must" have it and can't let go...
in all these cases instead of "giving" love, and energy you are now taking it, forcing the other person to give it..
and so... there you go ^^ hope that helps