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Lets say he replies positively, leaving his g/f and you start dating.You love him so much, he loves you so much...wouldn't you be haunted by the thought of another girl taking him from you? The same you did?Dont be an obsticle. This is the worst...Because people in relationships are much more easier to persuade. You need 1 flatter (mostly) to affect a guy who is in a relationships.Seriously, we dont have such great confidence when we are in relationships, and this is why men "Cheat" more than women."Emotionally speaking", men are just weaker...So they seek more women to "slake" their thirst of "conquest complex"..
I think it's wrong to pursue someone who is already in a relationship. Firstly, you don't know if that person feels the same about you. Second, you risk ruining the life of the person you love. If they truly love their current partner then you are in no position to ruin that. That person might be the love of their life. Thirdly, would you be happy with yourself knowing that in order do get what you want you ruined someone else's life? I know some people wouldn't care, but whatever bad or mean you do in your life it always comes back to bite you in the ass. Treat others the way you want them to treat you.
The obvious part to the answer is: Yes, it is wrong because - Would you want to be with that person knowing they would have a fling with the next person to come around and woo them?But there is a caveat. It is perfectly fine to encourage someone you have fallen in love with to consider their relationship. Usually when you fall for someone who is in a relationship, it's because they are being close to you a lot, often because they seek distractions from their problems in their relationship. Then they have to reconcile these issues, or find a way to end them.If you want to do this honestly, in a manner that will actually cause solutions, rather than just create more problems conglomerating for the future, then you need to be very thorough about the advice you provide: Tell them to think back to why they used to trust their partner, how happy it made them feel to have their partner's support, affection and adoration. To think back to the memories they share with their partner. And then to think about why they cannot value those anymore, and consider how it would feel for them to have to give up those feelings.Then they can truthfully make up their mind about what they want, and talk to their partners to make a final decision. After that decision has been made, they might end up being fair game again - and you would have laid your first cornerstone towards bonding with them.
Crap! I wasn't paying attention and I clicked No by mistake. (Sigh)Whether you're a guy or a girl of course it's wrong to go after someone who is in a relationship already. Just as it's wrong to go after someone else when you are already in a relationship. Unless you are one of those types who has very clearly defined open relationships (which I definitely don't understand personally).Whether you're trying to get someone to cheat, or you're the one cheating, or you're doing it to play mind games on people for your own pleasure. It's still wrong.
Yes. Although you are single and you can technically do whatever you want since you haven't made any commitments to anyone, I think it's highly morally questionable to go after someone who you know is in a relationship.Not only is it questionable, but it's also kind of stupid. If the guy ends up leaving his girlfriend for you, there's nothing that will stop him from leaving you for another girl in the same way, since he's clearly capable of doing it. If anything, it'll just prove how fickle of a person he is.Also, if you're ok with going after taken people, once you're in a serious relationship yourself, you should be ok with any and all advances that other girls make at your boyfriend. Otherwise you wouldn't just be a home wrecker, but also a massive hypocrite.
lol who the fuck said no? those're some noble harlots. agree with the majority though, it's just fucked up to all parties involved including yourself but if the guy is committed he'll shut that lady of the evening down real hard and fast. if their relationship is fucked, come once it ends
Yeah but if he's not interested, he'll reject her anyway. So what's the problem.
@Anon-ymous1 that's kind of what that "if the guy is committed he'll shut that lady of the evening down real hard and fast" part is about champ. so aside from the problem that someone who does it has little to no self respect, you're right it's whatever let them fuck who they please
Any man who will cheat to be with you will also cheat on you. You aren't that special that the type of person who is willing to betray someone else to be with you would find themselves so impressed with you that they wouldn't repeat the action.
Of course... let's say you get the guy.Then where is the trust? Knowing how you were/are, you know how other girls like you can be... they will pry a guy away from you. And since your guy fell for you so easily, he can fall for another girl just as easily.If I pried a girl away from another guy I would be so insecure in that relationship because it could easily slip away.
YES it IS... its wrecking bitches like you that cause problems. If this person was your man would YOU like for someone to go after him. So ytf do it to someone else. bet you would then hide if his girlfriend wanted to then whip your ass. I know i WOULD. Get your own damn man and RESPECT those of other women. Does that answer your very STUPID question
And ALL CAPS because VERY SERIOUS
Of course it is. It's not fair to him or to his girlfriend. Besides, even if it worked, would you really want to date a guy who would leave his girlfriend for another girl (in this case, you)? He'd probably do the same thing to you.
Yes, but of course if you have no problems with other girls doing the same thing to you and whatever boyfriend you end up with, then go right ahead.
the best you can do is become besties with both of them then wait for it to die someday = you are in pole position... in many ways
WAIT i pressed the wrong one! i thought it was is it wrong to go after a guy, like to approach a guyno you shouldn't unless the person is clearly unhappy in the relationship but even then maybe wait a little
is that even a question or you accidentally reversed the sequence of "it" and "is". you mean "it is wrong... ." and without the questionnmark in the end.
To the people who voted no, y'all are a bunch of homewreckers.You've got no business butting into someone else's relationship. You would not like it if a 3rd party interrupted your relationship so don't do it to other people or karma's gunna bite you back sweetie
Hopefully you're asking this because he has lead you to believe it was acceptable. If that is the case play on playette. However if that's not the case then step off. Regardless you should keep in mind that if they'll do it with you they'll do it to you. Best of luck!
Depends for me. If you liked him before he was in a relationship, I guess it's okay. If his relationship is harmful to both partners , yes. If he has rejected your attempts and you still chase him, hell no , its wrong.
Lol Any one who thinks it's okay to go after someone taken has about a 1 percent chance of having any success in a relationship.
If he is committed he won't return the favor, simple as that. You can't cheat with the excuse of "she made me do it"
You want to try and ruin a relationship providing that relationship is going good. If the relationship is not good they will most likely breakup so just wait until they break up. If you are the reason for a relationship falling apart or are the final stray then if it happens to you do not complain.
Girl ! You know the answer to that question... still if a guy wants to cheat he is gonna do it regardless , but you can’t make him unless he actually wants to and is sick of his girlfriend.
Just think of it this way;Would I like for someone to go after my boyfriend? To 'steal him from me?No tf you don't. So don't do that sh*t yourself either.
i would have no problem with that cuz i trust my man enough to know that he'll simply tell that woman that he is taken!
@melodysong I know, but it's still annoying, knowing that girl is really trying to get him. He can tell her he's taken but she already knows, like this girl and she still won't hold back...
its wrong and you guys are not trust worthy. you will do the same to each other.
HELL YES it is wrong you are crazy and stupid to do that just leave him alone and let him be go find another guy.
Undoubtedly. It's immoral and it would definitely make it sweet if it happened to the cheater after their bad deeds.
Whenever you are confused of something, imagine yourself in the shoes of that person.Imagine a whole scenario where you are that guy and the girl he is with. If you don't mind then, there is nothing there to stop you.
Yes. It is. If you know they're with someone, let them be
You can try, but think if he’s willing to leave a girl for you, who is to say he won’t leave you for another girl?
Yeah it just shows you are a horrible person. I mean even if you succee your new boyfriend could easily do the same thing to you. And since you were a shit bag to start with it would be nice if he did.
Absolutely yes! I wouldn't want someone going after my boyfriend, so I would never go after someone else's. If the guy is a player, don't use that as an excuse to have an affair.
I don’t even know why you’re asking... isn’t it obvious
-_- Of course it is. Get your own man. There's plenty of them out there.
Socially maybe, but whatever feels right cannot be wrong.
Why don't you go ask his girlfriend what she thinks lol. Hope you get bitch slapped while you're at it for how stupid this question is.
Perhaps not if his relationship level is low, and thinking “I would make him happier” as apposed to “he would make me happier”. Not positive, though.
Wtf of course it is. Only someone with absolutely no morals would ask this. How would you feel if someone stole your man? You'll get your answer now.
It's not fair for the guy, and it's disrespectful to the girl, or the guy... whoever he's dating. Respecting their relationship is the best thing to do, and move on
Why would you want to do this? Are you that desperate?
Or maybe they just really like him?
@Anon-ymous1 if he is in a relationship why mess that up. That’s being selfish
Yet, if he is not interested in her, he will reject her anyway, so why does it matter?
@Anon-ymous1 it’s just stupid
Well it depends on what's your definition of wrong jk it's f*ing wrong kids.
How would you feel if someone was after your SO. I mean unless your into that kind ofthing.
Yes, unless he is in an abusive relationship where the abuser is the partner.
Of course it is. What kind of silly question is this?
It always amazing me that people don't know certain things are wrong. How would going after someone who's in a relationship already, not be wrong? Yes, it's wrong!
Not just wrong, but shortsighted as well. Remember the Dishonest Gain Reflexive: A thing which can be stolen, is a thing which can be stolen. Don't that make you sad about it?
Let's think on this shall we? How would you feel if your boyfriend was seeing another girl? Just, curious. Though by the sounds of it you must not care.
c'mon, you know the answer to this
Morality is relative to the new generation..
@Blake0048 isn't it just...
Lmao for real
If you really have to ask this your not ready for a relationship.
Na if he dnt wanna cum wit u he wont! It’s his choice
If you want anything in life go get it. I say that because it's his choice and it's legal. People can't criticise u because it's his faithfulness that determines the outcome.
Nope!, to quote Beyoncé if he liked it he should of put a ring on it.
no u know why because only if he is an asshole he will fall for u its a test for him not u
Just think if you were in a relationship, what would you think about girls going after your guy?
@melodysong words dont stop some girls from doing what they want and pushing themselves onto a taken guy when he least expects it. Trusting your guy is great, I trust mine, I just don't trust some girls because words dont mean crap to some of them
Yes, how'd you feel if a girl went after your man and you'll have your answer
Idunno. Is it wrong to beat a sack of kittens with a sack of puppies? Would that make you a horrible person?
Only if you loved him first and she's proven to treat him wrong-NEVER as a fling or or have an affaire!
Does it really matter if it's wrong or right? Would you really want to be with a man who cheated on his girlfriend with you?
Do you really wanna be considered someone with loose and low sexual morals?Be a decent human being and go for someone else. No need to be desperate.
I am alone. Why dont you go after me? Is it beacause I am not handsome?
Seriously? You know the answer to this. Come on.Put your place in his girlfriends shoes. How would you feel?
Thanks for downvoting.The answer you clearly wanted was of course it’s okay! It’s not your commitment and it won’t determine how he feels about true commitments because you obviously his true love:Keep pursing it. Divorce will end in your favour and wives find it really cute to find out their husband had mistresses! Remember to put out a spread.
i can't believe there are over 30 so far who have thought that this is perfectly acceptable. Put yourself in the shoes of the one in the relationship with the guy, how would you feel?
That's the thing. Some people seem to be ok with it as long as they are the ones gaining something from it. But when someone suddenly goes after whoever you're with, they're suddenly a bitch or an asshole. Very hypocritical and selfish.
@lumos sadly true. as long as they're happy never mind anyone else or the consequences.
How would you feel if you had a boyfriend and another girl was going after him?
i dont know if i want to date anymore or just have fun and use girls
If you were trying for a threesome, then sure, go ahead. Otherwise...
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