How much do you trust people on dating apps?

I've been "using" dating apps for about 4 to 5 years now. I use them when I'm bored or when I want to talk to people, never purposely for dating though.

A few guys have asked me out for coffee, but I always say no because I don't trust them. I'm a very cautious person and I don't want to take any risks just in case I meet someone strange or potentially dangerous.

So what's your opinion on meeting strangers in person you met on a dating app? Do you always trust them and meet in short time, what are your experiences and just opinion in general? Am I silly for thinking this way?


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  • You are certainly not silly for wanting to be cautious... That is honestly being very smart. But, you will eventually have to bite the bullet and meet someone if you ever want to be in a relationship. Insist on meeting in a public place like a restaurant or mall. Don't have him pick you up the first time you meet... Meet him somewhere. And, most importantly, don't be afraid to say that you don't feel comfortable or didn't feel a connection. The real trouble starts when you lead a guy on because you were too scared to say that you didn't like him. The longer he thinks that you like him... the more difficult and scary the breakup will be.

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  • I used to be like you. Went on those app, got compliments, a good ego boost and never had the gutts to go meet them.

    But recently I've been saying yes to going in dates with a few of them! And it's great :) it is nerve racking!

    If you always meet them in public and before night time, there is very little chance of danger. The worst that happens is you guys really don't hit it off in person and the date cuts short. But it's a great experience nonetheless.
    I also make sure to tell at least one of my friends the exact place and hour when I go meet someone. And I also make a friend call me about 30 minutes into the date so I can easily have an exit (by like saying my mom is suddenly in the hospital and I have to go now!).

    In my opinion, there is little danger. I also think you are missing out on wonderful experiences and who knows... maybe even missing out on some awesome dude who would rock your world!

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    • I don't meet in short times though. If the guy asks me out after barely 5 minutes, it's always a no.
      I have to get a good vibe from them and that usually takes 3 to 7 days depending on our talking frequency.
      I ask them out sometimes to! Guys love it also :)

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What Guys Said 28

  • People like you is the reason I don't trust dating apps. You use it to waste time or go on it when bored? Meaning you just lead people on and don't have any intentions of meeting. If you don't trust people on it then don't bother using it. You are just wasting peoples time that actually want to meet somone.

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  • By now I met a lot of people online and also some of them in real life and can't say anything bad about it. Sure there are always bad people but that's not a reason to don't meet anybody from the internet. I met my SO in the internet and my mother met her husband in the internet too. They are happy together for nearly 10 years now. I don't trust them more or less than anybody in the real life.

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  • Enough to put my penis in them.
    But seriously, it is super annoying how many girls you come across on those things who pretend to be interested in dating, but really only are bored or want attention and will just waste your time.

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  • I do not Trust these People There too so i Just dont use them and meet people from real Life in real Life.
    by the way If people are really using a Dating App (at least where i live) they have to do that because they won't find a Partner in a normal way.
    So stay careful when using it!

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  • I think the best way to know a stranger is in person.
    It's always good to get to know them first on the Internet. Then you can find an appropriate place to meet.
    Unfortunately, it's not only the Internet you can't trust people but everywhere. Always make sure you're making the right choice and don't take unnecessarily risks. My personal opinion, sometimes you need to take some small risk to find out more about someone.

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What Girls Said 6

  • I’ve been dating a man I met on match for 3 months now. Turned out awesome for me! Always be cautious but maybe talk to them first and don’t get your hopes set one way or the other. I just went for it. He picked me up and everything. Perfect gentleman. Not really sure why he was on match but his profile is completely gone now. 😊😊😊

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  • I wouldn't trust them too, after all i have experienced on Internet, I don't need more surprises irl too

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  • I have been more trusting then most. Have met a lot of people off there. Mostly around people but sometimes at mine or there house.

    My sons dad I met online as well as my ex of 3 years... including my current partner.

    You can meet someone in the street and no then even less then you no someone online. So trust is a hard one to figure out.

    You have to be careful... I agree but getting to no one another online first. Then phone calls. Maybe even video calls. To meeting in a busy place , cafe, restaurant, shpppivg centre can take the edge of you. Feeling uncomfortable.

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  • If they are on an app and you find out that they go to your college... they are at LEAST educated and you should feel more comfortable with them! =)

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  • I dont think you are silly. Listen to yourself.

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