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I can vouch for that. I can clearly remember saying something I didn't mean because of the situation I was in and the overwhelming pressure I was facing.When I look back I know it was me crying out for help and all I wanted in return was a slap on the face for initial shock and then a long-don't-let-me-go-hug to make me feel better as this would've reassured me I had the support I thought I didn't have.This is how I've learnt that plain simple English to communicate what you want/how you feel is best in any situation rather than overcomplicatig everything with hidden messages and agendas.As I can't change the past all I can say is I'm sorry for what I said...
Here's the n that I forgot to type in overcomplicating. Sorry!
So if he’s not responding for awhile after a fight he knows he was an idiot
Like a couple days weeks
If he means anything to you then reach out to him and let him know you're there for him.Make it clear that yes, he was an idiot and you deserve better than that. Just clear the air between the two of you and go from there.Don't ever let the wheels of communication fall off otherwise the relationship just breaksdown: In this modern day and age there's no 5th emergency service you can call up when that happens - Keep talking x :-)
Bc he has ptsd and he said has to deal with that so I said I’d be in touch after my exam
That was my way of communicating to give him space
Just make him aware that he doesn't have to go through it alone. He has your support which's clear to see.However, he needs to confirm that what you're doing is right: If space is what he needs then you need to know that - You can't second guess because it maybe the complete opposite of what he wants.See how the communication's key to how both parties know what's going on/how they feel?
He told me before he couldn’t give me what I want bc of the ptsd. And he didn’t feel anything and during the fight he said to leave him alone. So that’s why I sent that
Ask him if he's happy for you to walk away because of what he said which's pretty clear.If the answer's no, then you need to ask why as it doesn't make sense based on what he said.If yes, then although that will initially hurt, you need to remain strong and remember that if he may not love you for reasons x/y/z but you mustn't ever stop loving... Yourself xox
You mean that he’s ill and isn’t ready to date
Bc then he was talking to me after that
Like I think he needs space
He said there’s too much drama so it sounds like space
He said all of that bc of drama
He said I’m not right for you at all.
This is all bc we haven’t had sex
I didn't say that. This is where clear communication between you two is key as to where this relationship will go from here.You think what you're doing is right but your just second guessing.You both need to sit down in a relaxed environment and have that one talk where you can both let each other know what you want/how you feel.There can be no arguing in this. There has to be respect for each other to say what each of you want to say and the other listens.Right, so after all that, he's behaving like this because he's not getting what he wants? Sex is important, but it's not the be all, end all of a relationship.
Based on what you've said, he doesn't want the drama, the ups downs of a relationship, he just wants sex!How does that make you feel?
He had the whole fight over sex. I could wait a hundred years. And he’s still want sex.
It’s weird bc at one point he said he didn’t know what he wanted and we were about to go on a date. I took a step forward instead of back and pushed it. So I need to take a step back.
That’s when it will change Bc we’ve talked about dating he’s just not ready.
I think he thinks I’m pushing him to make a decision
Then later he says he has ptsd
Then earlier in our relationship he’s like I don’t want to use you for sex I’m like wtf lol
If you're not ready for sex and you need a hundred years before you're ready then it's quite clear he doesn't have the patience to wait.He's not ready to date/commit to you so fights in the hope that you give in.If you did, I can just see him using you for sex whilst making false promises that in time you become a genuine couple.I also forsee future argument (s) whereby he 'breaks up' with you to pursue someone else who'll give him sex without the 'drama'.Seems like what you both want right now are complete opposites.How can he have sex with someone he has no feelings for? Do you not have feelings? Yes, you do. Therefore, he just wants that... Sex, which if you won't give, he'll get elsewhere.You have feelings girl and I'd wish when you have sex with someone it'd be with someone who felt something for you. After all, you have a heart and your not just some soulless being just to have sex with, right?
That's just talk to get you to hear what he thinks you want to hear.You were born with a sexy brain girl, now go use it x :-)
If I hooked up with him could it turn into something
That's what he wants but sadly it won't.I just don't trust the way he goes about it all. He may as well have sex with a doll because he doesn't have to show any feelings towards it/there's no drama.You're worth more than that x
So you think he wants more just has no clue how to do it
Oh so he likes me but is chicken
My sincere apologies for the late reply: I was absolutely shattered last night and ended up falling asleep - I'm sorry!You're reading him all wrong as all he wants is sex and nothing else.Hence, he has no feeling towards you. Why have sex with someone who has no feelings for you? He has no reason to satisfy you and you'll just end up hurt in the long run.
PS Your interpretation of hook up is the complete opposite of his.His is sex, yours is he likes me so I'll reward him with sex and something good will come out of it.
Thank you for MHO! Hope you've gained clarity in your relationship x :-)
Some people may use it as a defense mechanism. Sometimes we say things we don't mean when we're not thinking clearly as well.There's an old saying from around 4-00-500 B. C. and it relates directly to this:"Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
Bc he didn’t talk to me for awhile after that and then I called a break
In a fight men usually go all out as far as i know, nothing is sacred then.
Yea a guy told me he had ptsd then to leave me alone! Haha! He’s getting a big chunk of space!
It depends on their personality just like anyone else.
Generally they really mean it
No they usually don't...
No More Opposite Than What Women Say...
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