So I've been with my boyfriend for 2 almost 3 years now and we have a one-year-old son together. My boyfriend won't work so I became a stripper to make money since we have lost everything. My boyfriend hates that I strip. Should I quit or support my boyfriend and 2 sons making quick fast easy money? P. S. I only plan to do this until my family is back on our feet.. this is not a career plan...
I became a stripper to support my family because my boyfriend won't work. He hates that I strip.. is it really all that bad?
What Guys Said 66
Hell no! if he won't work and you are he better be at home cleaning cooking and making life for your son f****** awesome. Not having a job does not mean you don't have a job to do. You stepping up to make money for the household no matter what it is is a strong and brave thing to do. So if he don't put in he can get out. But work on him because a son needs a father. But one that sets a good example. Nothing wrong with what you do good luck.3
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What do u mean by bad? I mean naturally we are born naked , maybe it's bad from religious prospective or certain moral values but there's no standard to what's bad , if you think you're violating your " own " moral and religious/non religious values then yeah it's bad if not then it's not bad. It's up to you at the end of the day5
This is clearly not an easy situation for you, so let's state the facts here;
1. He won't work, thus making him a lazy ass
2. You stepped up as a responsible person and took action to support your family. Although you are working in sth that I consider degrading (no offense meant), but you realize that the well-being of your family, is more important than anything else. (Huge Respect for that)
3. Your boyfriend does not recognize the previous fact as a whole, and only sees the part that hurts his pride. Although his pride is dead the moment he let you do stripping.
All these things considered, it's obvious that this all is his wrong doing.
I am not shaming you for stripping, you do what want/like to do. But it seems that it was self-obligatory for good reasons.
If you have the power to cut him from money, or push him over to get off his ass and do sth useful, then please do.
In conclusion, do not overload yourself, cut him of if you can. Dump him if it's better for you and your boys.
Take care, hope it all ends up well for you and the boys.2
You're tough and know tge true meaning of sacrifice.. i like that. The fact that you possess that sense of responsibility is admirable even if you resorted to that type of job which usually is understandable depending on the situation you guys were in. Keep looking for a good job mean time and dont drag yourself deep in the muddy world of stripping and nightlife.. im pretty sure you can find something better
As your semi man.. no idea how he dares even making a comment.. keep pushing him to go work1
If he is refusing to work then he has zero right to complain and also needs a good thwack upside the head.
And you do what you gotta to give your kids what they need. No one should think less of you for that6
If he doesn't want you to strip, tell him to get a job.9
Not good for so many reasons...1
Ditch the loser. If you have to strip to make ends meat and he won't work. Don't waste your time with him3
What’s wrong with your boyfriend that can’t get his ass out their and help support! If your the one making the money and feeding the family care what that dude likes are not.. he has no say until he starts contributing too the family! Wow! Is he injured? Is he at least in school? And even then he can still work a part time job2
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i don't think he has any right to tell you what job to do when he won't work himself.3
Why do you want to degrade yourself for a POS! Any man that would just sit on his ass while you work a job that is beneath your dignity is not worth the trouble. He's just using you! Kick his loser ass to the curb and go back to school. You can do so much better. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 ask God to help you. He will.3
I think he is an idiot. Why? Because I'd dump you the moment you stripped one time. I think once you do something sexual like that, letting other men see all of you and dance for them and on them to turn other men on other than your partner you've basically broken the barriers of a normal, healthy, exclusive relationship. Hundreds of men pay for access of your time, your body, the sight of all of you nude, touching them with your lap dances. Once you cross that line I'd say you shouldn't even date or try to be in a relationship, you aren't faithful. You're a sex worker. I think your boyfriend is an idiot to waste one more day with you.
Is it really that bad? What compared to a prostitute? I think it is horrible. One of the worst things you could do. I'd never date you ever. I think your boyfriend (he really isn't that is he since you let hundreds of men get all of you and you attempt to turn on 100's of men other than your "boyfriend" and 100's of men get to stare at your naked vagina and butt and breasts) is really weak and must have low self esteem that he thinks you are the best he can do.
What kind of weak ass "man" dates a sex worker. A f**k buddy is about all you'd be good for. Not a "relationship".
Don't give me the "family" crap. There are a million ways to make money, you act like pleasing men sexually is all you can do for money.
Quit dating. Just be alone.0
he hates that you strip but he "won't work"? wtf is wrong with ths guy?5
Striping is degrading your yourself. Get a normal job and tell that lazy ass boyfriend of yours to man the hell and provide for his family.1
It's not an ideal situation. Give him an ultimatum. Your current profession will continue until he gets a job.1
I don't blame your boyfriend for hating that your a stripper. He doesn't want you to be taking off your clothes for other men in a club. You need to reserve your nudity for him. And I can imagine when your kids are older what they are going to wanna know what you did at your job. It's not going to be easy telling them that you took your clothes off on a table in front of complete strangers for money. Being a stripper is extremely risky not only because of your boyfriend but all the weirdo men that try to get with you.0
"we have a one-year-old son together. My boyfriend won't work"
Bad choices, not only on his part, but also yours. I don't blame you for stripping--a girl has to do what she has to do, but your choice of men, ack!
This does remind me of an incident in my city area some years back. A young single mother was sending her daughter to a good Christian private school instead of the crappy public schools--and stripping to pay for it. An interesting moral case:
You can make great money stripping. And there is nothing wrong with it. Also maybe it will motivate your boyfriend to get a job and learn to support his kid.2
I don't damn you for that.
Nudity isn't that important.1
If he doesn't like it then he should get a job so you can quit!1
You need a new man more than you need a new job.3
Keep stripping! You need to doo whatever it takes to support yourself and your family. I am proud of you for not giving up and doing nothing.1
Support your sons and get a better by1
You need to dump his lazy ass and get with a real man that will support you for you.
P. S I am ok with the stripping IF you enjoy it.1
I read the other answers and your replys. Keep doing whatever you need to support your child. And please consider dumping him altogether. He seems to be a horrible partner. It can be a hard thing to do, and even risk, but you deserve better.1
It’s not bad other strippers who go beyond their duties to make money is the stereo type given so that title comes with it... but he knows what he needs to do to stop you get a job or at least attempt then you can stop0
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What Girls Said 20
I feel like you and your boyfriend have bigger issues than you stripping. How is it ok that he is refusing to work? What makes you think he will eventually get off his ass and get a job? You may be stripping for a long time if he doesn't get it together.3
I think you should leave your boyfriend because he sounds fucking useless.
If he isn’t going to step up to help you support your family, then he doesn’t get a say in your current profession.1
Tell him if he wants you to stop that bad he could get off his useless ass and get a fucking job. Yeah jobs are in short supply but fucking minimum wage at a shitty job is still some money which is better than the no money he's making now.1
Your boyfriend 'WONT' work?
Like he doesn't wish to?
Cz if that is the case then I don't think he should object your way of making money
And if he really hated it, he would be trying to find a job at least.
For the both of you.
(Since u didn't mention anything about him trying)1
I was watching a tv show trailer. The lady said, There’s nothing quite as useless as a useless man. At this point, he’s just dead weight. A man who won’t work as has his girlfriend out stripping is a man you don’t need. Why are you with him? You clearly can take care of yourself. And who cares if you love him? He doesn’t love you.1
What the hells wrong with him any man who wouldn't get his lazy ass up n work before the thought of u being a stripper, is a worthless sob in my mind1
I think it is unfortunate and personally I wouldn't be a stripper or go to a strip club. I'm glad it's not your career plan. Your boyfriend won't work yet he has the audacity to bitch about you becoming a stripper to support your family? Interesting...
Then tell your boyfriend to get up off his ass and get a job so you don't have to strip!! Seriously, why are you with someone like that, even if you do have a kid together? Find someone who isn't lazy and will work to help support you and your kid!2
Forget what he thinks, he ain't paying no bills. You keep stripping, and when you get back on your feet you should continue stripping part time just to put some money away in a savings account1
I was contemplating as to whether or not I wanted to do the same thing a few years ago. Honestly don’t let people make you feel bad for doing what you feel is going to make great money. If he doesn’t want you to strip then tell him you’ll stop once he starts bringing in money too.1
I don't see how your boyfriend can complain when he doesn't earn any money himself.1
You have to do what you have to do, good source of income who cares if he hates it. Either yk you keep going and place to stay or quit and not have much0
No. Because right now your family's wellbeing comes before his insecurities.1
He won't work and still has a problem with something he caused you to be doing? I am just gonna leave you to reflect on how stupid you are, and the poor example your man is setting for your kids, bye.0
Seriously? He is complaining about this yet he refuses to work.1
he should be contributing as well. if you want to be a stripper thats fine but he is in NO PLACE to be critiquing you while he sits on his ass. tell him to get a job or get out. you should not be struggling and working hours for him to be freeloading off of you. he needs to get a job because he is being irresponsible. i have no problem at all with strippers i just think that if he let it get to the point where you have to strip for money he is not a good boyfriend.0
Why do you want a lazy ass boyfriend? If he really doesn't want you to strip he would be looking for a job to support you and your kids. I'd say save a ton, quit and find a career, a better one if you don't plan on stripping as a long term thing and dumb his ass. He should be giving you shit if he isn't doing anything, you're doing what best for your family. If that was me I would dumb him.1
DUMP THE BITCH! He is no use, and quit your job. Selling your body is not the answer you can do better than that2
Tell him if he doesn’t like it he better get up off his lazy backside and pull his own weight in the family.0
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