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Kempo and jujitsu are good together.One for striking the other for grappling and taking a fall.Don't show boat as you get better. There are always people bigger and better than you.I think its good as an individual experience. Not for the sake of picking up girls.Shadow boxing is a good training to keep your muscles active.Wing chun is a good CQ. Builds up response time since your typically face to face. And it helps to solidify your confidence.Have fun doing it because you want to do it. Not for others.Let me know if you need anything else. I been around the block in all of those i mentioned.
Thanks. Yeah I don't mean to make this sound like I want something to showboat off of to get girls. I just want to be able to defend myself and her if I have to. I always found jiu jitsu interesting. Same with boxing and Muay Thai.
It would be nice to know that he could protect himself if necessary but I'm the type that strongly prefers to avoid physical confrontation unless my safety or another's is at stake. A lot of the good fighters I know, even the ones with cheerful temperaments, are more likely to get physical when agitated enough. Like if another guy were making comments about their girl or him himself, instead of just telling the dude to screw off they'd start swinging impulsively. Good fighters tend to solve conflict physically in my observation.
That's true because he knows how to fight and all that so it's natural for him. I just figured a lot of women would be attracted to fighters because they're more likely to protect them. I had a conversation about one of my buddies with this conversation and it just made sense. I thought if I learned how to fight women would be more attracted to to me. It's also biological too. Women watch men fight to the death for a chance to mate.
you're totally right, when i trained for kickboxing almost daily in the past for 2 years, i felt more aggressive and wanted to resolve majority of problems with my siblings, friends, and even strangers sometimes only by using violence rather than trying to talk things out first. most of that violence stems from my subconscious. i'm not really sure how to describe it but it's like deep down inside me i felt like i'm superior to others just because i felt that i was stronger and faster from training constantly. the less in shape the person is, the more the more ego i had to feed myself with and i get cocky. it's not like i really want to be violent but it's like there's this dark version of me that's in control of my body when i used to train for kickboxing. ever since i stopped training kickboxing cause something happened to a BFF of mines, i just realized i had to stop and went for lifting weights instead. about a few months after i stopped training, i'm already a mellow person.
@doodleheads & Asker, I'm glad I'm not the only one who's noticed the connection. I was worried I sounded a bit judgy lol. I think it's a great life skill to be able to protect ourselves & loved ones when necessary but it also worries me whenever fights breakout, especially when my loved one is in the middle of the situation. You never know if someone has a concealed weapon, is low key trained in combat, will be eager to press charges, etc. I feel like having that extra confidence makes some fighters consider the potential consequences less.
It does. I know some guys who are trained fighters and they are good and there is a high level of confidence behind it but that's what makes them less hesitant. I'm glad you find it a waste of time. I think so unless you really have to.
Yeah, it's like knowing CPR. A potentially life saving skill but not something you should be itching to use. I think that you should go ahead and pursue martial arts if you're really interested in it as a sport/hobby or concerned about self-defense. Just be smart about how you use it. Don't go looking for trouble.
I will and I'll try to learn it for myself instead of impressing people or girls actually. I just thought most of you found it hot or attractive or care about it which prompted me to ask but if you say it's nothing to worry about I believe you. I guess it's just a guy thing to think this way.
Athleticism is a pretty attractive trait to me but I don't like the idea of my guy in serious danger. Martial arts can be attractive if the guy isn't getting his face pummeled (as seen in cases of certain regulated, "safe", competitive martial arts). I know a number of girls who think it's hot to see their guy fight for their honor (or at least they think they would). Mines is just one opinion.
Right and I can completely understand. Athleticism is attractive even in women. I do believe the fighting for your honor or damsel in distress fantasy I should say appeals to a lot of women. Do you fantasize about it? Long a strong powerful dominant man saving you from the bad guys?
Not really. I might be in the minority but I fantasize about having more wit & charm than I actually so. I'd prefer to outsmart and dominate my own competition whether they be male or female. I've been considering taking up martial arts myself but I'd rather spend the money on other stuff. Most of my fantasies about men are pretty stable and realistic lol. I've seen enough danger to want safety... Sounds boring, I know.
Ah yeah. I often fantasize about my own competition like beating my friend st a video game lol. But I always compare myself from who I used to be. You should also consider taking up martial arts. It's good for a woman to do that because there's a lot of sneaky men out there who want to take advantage of women like you and those women are basically screwed. Any martial art you have in particular you want to try?
I'm really not sure. I'm pretty small so something that doesn't require a lot of strength or height would be ideal. I've heard of some styles that use the opponent's weight/ strength against them but I forget the names.
Judo/Jiu jitsu would be good for you I believe
You ever heard of them before?
yes, judo and jiu jitsu are good like asker recommended and i also recommend aikido as well along with those. if it's for the streets i would NEVER recommend BJJ (brazilian jiu jitsu) just because of the fact that it's mostly based on grappling techniques. in a street fight, the last thing you want is to be on the floor. you don't know if the person you are fighting has friends around and the moment you head lock or arm lock his friend, they will jump in and start kicking you or something. sometimes random spectators would jump in the fight just because they want to cheap shot people for fun. not trying to bash on BJJ, but unless you're 100% sure that it'll be a 1 on 1(which is less likely going to happen on the streets), then i would recommend BJJ.
@doodleheads & Asker I've heard of them all. I would definitely try to avoid grappling in a self-defense situation. I would want the confrontation to be as short and as unharmful (for me) as possible. I'll take closer look into the ones you've recommended.
She has a point. Only use grappling in a sure 1 vs 1 situation. Like if you got an abusive relative at home or you're confronted by a lone mugger in an alleyway. But yeah look into the those they could be a life saver. YouTube has a lot of information. If you have any schools near you you should think about trying it out. I think I will.
I'm wary of prices at the martial arts places where I live. A few of my friends who trained at them have told me that they were kinda expensive. I have some other priorities at the moment lol. I'll try looking online for tips.
Yeah lol. Lots of martial arts schools are very over priced so definitely consider that lol. Online tips are good for the moment until you can find something. Do you work out at a gym or anything?
I work out in my living room. It's mostly simple cardio. Like sit ups, push ups, squats, lunges, planking exercises, etc. I like to walk too. I may take up jogging when it gets warmer.
That's a good way to strengthen and build up your body. At least by being active you already have a head start which is good. A lot of those exercises work your core strength and that's really important since your upper and lower body connect to your core.
That's true. I'm trying to get the most out of my body while I can. I figure the healthier i keep myself, the better use I'll get out of it long term. I didn't really consider that it could be helping build a foundation for other stuff lol.
Well yeah. Most of the stuff you do people in prison do those all the time and look how strong those guys are lol. But yeah you keep training your core, I read it's essential for martial arts since the foundation starts from the core. You're already ahead of most women your age so that's a plus lol.
Just sent a follow too, it's pending.
Oh, just saw it lol.
Yeah lol. I don't send out many follows but I said screw it, you're pretty cool.
Thanks! Sorry, I'm so slow replying. You're pretty chill yourself.
You're welcome! Ah no it's alright. You do what you gotta do lol but yeah I appreciate it. Everyone says I'm chill so I guess that's a good thing lol.
Do you pm? I just got a question to ask
Definitely a good thing haha. It'd be cool to hear which martial arts you decide to practice.
Sure but no weird stuff.
Yeah, I'll let you know lol and yeah, just a simple question.
I love dudes who know how to fight, I think it's sexy, but it isn't mandatory.
So if anything it's just a bonus?
Yeah it's just a bonus.
Do you watch boxing or mma on tv?
That's cool. So do I. Oh another thing I want to ask regarding my question, do you think that in general, women deep down inside actually care if their guy can fight? Or is this heavily individual based?
It's an individual thing.
Oh gotcha. Thanks for your honesty.
Being able to fight and having a tendency for having fights are two different things. The first (assuming you are good at it) is masculine af because you can protect them if the need arises. The second one means you are impulsive, full of insecurities, and testosterone filled which could also (but not necessarily) be an indicator of future abuse.
My question is about the former. I'm asking if women in general care about it and if I should learn to fight.
Not necessary but would probably be a huge turn on if the need ever arises for you to show off your skills. On the flip side boasting tends to be a turn off.
I would never showboat. I know not to do that. I just want to be able to protect her if I have to and not get beat down.
They care about you being able to protect them and your offspring but if you study martial arts you'll probably end up on a viral video from "World Star" when you get put to sleep when your round house kick fails.Start Boxing.
I've always liked boxing. Yeah I had the belief most women deep down inside care about it.
Probably not as much but it can be a bonus, I've been doing martial arts since I was 17 so it’s not a big thing like girls go “Omg!! You can fight!!”It’s a bonus but not a requirement
It may be more of a bonus then you think.
Eh, I never did it to get girls so It doesn’t matter to me lol
@Nate1941 How so?
No, not really. I’d rather not have to know if he fights well or not. As long as I know he can protect and defend me, that’s good enough.
I do those things so i can protect my damn self. Doesn't matter what you can or can't do.
That puts me off. It makes me worry he’ll be into hitting me or others
I see, so you wouldn't mind dating a pacifist?
That's good. It's nice to hear a woman say that at least because I hate fighting. Physically and verbally.
There’s lots of women feel the same way. I’m sure you’ll find several irl
Haven't found one yet but I'll keep my head up.
That’s the spirit!
It is. by the way I like your icon picture. Where is it from?
It’s from Chis sweet home!
It looks nice. Cute cat lol.
Who are you? Napoleon Dynamite?
Doesn't make a difference to me.
Nahh who tf wants to fight as an adult.
i just made a post about it lol
I didn't quite get what your question was asking.
he has got to be fresh from the fight do u agree?IT MEANS UR QUESTION IN A SIMPLER WAY
Nope. Bonus perhaps, but it isn't a decider
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