I normally offer, but a guy refused to. So I normally offer to pay for drinks or so. However in future don't want a guy to pay for me, unless we are further in our relationship. Only because I don't want a guy thinking I owe him something and used that against me.
Do you make a guy pay for the date a lot? Or guys do you refuse to let a girl pay for the date when she offers?
What Guys Said 20
I'll pay for her if I feel like it or I'll let her pay half if I don't really feel like it. I've also had girls pay for me before which was interesting.1
If she didn't do any dealbreakers (read: on the phone all the time, not engaging in conversation, rude behaviour to others, etc.) I'll always offer to pay unless she insists to pay half (which yes, has happened in the past).1
I will refuse to pay for my date's meal on the first few dates, and rather opt for us each paying for our own food. If I paid for my date's meal on every first date I went on, and there weren't any second dates, I'd go bankrupt REAL fast. However, once we've been on enough dates that I'm confident we will form a lasting relationship, I'd be more than happy to treat her.
If that's a problem with her, she wasn't the one anyway.1
This is such as great question, I am intrigued to see so many opinions so far1
When I first meet a girl, I let her pay a couple times. Just to gauge what she's like with money. I'll start off by being kind of an asshole and letting her pay for a lot and then if she doesn't say anything I start paying for pretty much everything until I think I've probably paid for more stuff and then the second part of the test is whether or not she goes back to insisting she pays for stuff. Either way, that's when I try to keep an even balance and I mostly stop keeping a tally.0
I think it is highly dependant on culture. Where I come from it is normal to split the bill when going out on date. Anything else is seen as a great compliment, but should never be expected.1
It's 90 percent a man's job and not something that you later owe him, I would let my partner occasionally treat me with a casual lunch or ice cream to keep her from feeling like she owes me.1
It's good to pay for your own consumption. It also makes you aware of the cost. You will appreaciated men's contribution more, if they are paying for you once in a while.1
Ok, if you have some sort of prejudice about prostitution... and pay for sex I can understand and I will even offer to pay, actually I will let you pay for my meal so you can pay for sex if that makes you feel more secure.
As for "oweing him something" sorry bar, but you do. You owe him a open mind and a positive attitude with none of that mypussysospecial crap. You know you would blow guys for a cigarette or less when you're in the mood. If you hold your pussy as a prize, only men that think of pussy as a prize will put up with your tests and coyness.0
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My date may pay anything she wants. I won't hesitate to accept it. Also from my experience girls like you more if you make them pay.1
I think It is more polite for the men to pay but if the girl offers then maybe they should agree to do halfs.1
It’s kind of a mans “job” to pay for dinner on the first date and after that he usually will want to split it.1
I pay for meals because if I initiate the date then it’s the nice thing to do1
I prefer to pay but if she's adamant I like it. It shows independence2
I say after a year of dating then that's when I feel it is more appropriate for the woman to pay1
Give n take1
I insist on paying, not because I actually want to at all, but you can’t trust a girl to be okay with a guy not paying. So basically guys are forced into it, no one wants to risk their shot with the girl.1
What Girls Said 3
I’ll always offer but he usually insists on paying. In the current situation, I don’t feel too bad about it because he lives forty minutes away and I do 99.9% of the driving so I’m blowing a lot o go money on gas to see him and he’s spending it on food while I’m there. It evens out.1
I don’t offer because arguing over tht is so lame, so I just go first and pay for myself1
I don't have a problem with paying myself.1
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