Do you give her space? or be persistent?
Most Helpful Girl
It depends on the reason why she is mad and on her personality.
Some girls are stupid and they think they are always right, get mad without an actual reason and the only way to make things good with them is saying sorry (even if it is not your fault lol). Unfortunately, I know personally such girls...
For me - I love the communication. I would tell you what's wrong and give you a time to explain your point of view in some situation. I also don't like to argue with anyone and I am mostly mad only for a short time. So I usually need a moment of a space to calm down so we don't talk emotionally. Then just talk, smile, hug/kiss and that's it.1
Most Helpful Guy
We almost have a routine.
If it is a minor issue - like me getting on my high horse on some issue or other - my girlfriend will usually smile at me, roll her eyes, and either pat me on the cheek or give me a little kiss. I melt every time.
If it is something minor that she did - in my opinion - I just say in a sort of timid voice, "N'yes dear." Then she will smile and say, "Stop that!! You know I'm right..." and we usually bust out laughing.
If it is more serious, we will usually raise our voices, but we don't scream. We are just not that way. It will usually go on a bit until one of us says, "Okay, it's not that big a deal. I'm sorry."
Alternatively, if it goes on we will usually get quiet. We may not speak for a bit and then one of us - usually my girlfriend - will go to bed early. She'll sit in bed and read and I will climb into bed and turn my back to her.
We have a rule that we never go to sleep angry at each other. So it is almost an inflexible routine. Before one or the other of us is ready to go to sleep, if my girlfriend is about to call it a night she will usually put her hand on shoulder and will say, "Honey, it's not that important. I love you." I'll reply, "Love you sweetheart. You're still the best thing that ever happened to me." She'll then lean over and we kiss and then she'll turn out the lights.
If it is me. I'll usually roll over and look at her and then, in a sing-songy voice I'll say, "Hoooooonnnneeeeyyy, I wuuuuvvvvv you." She'll roll her eyes - she has to do that a lot with me as her boyfriend - smile and bend down kiss me, say "You are incorrigible," and then I smile and turn back over and go to sleep.
By next morning it is forgotten.
That's how we have done it for as long as I can remember. We have dated for 12 years, lived together for ten and have three children together and are totally in love. So it must work.2