Here's the deal. I have been married for several years and my husband and I have 2 little boys. We are not right for each other, and even from the beginning of our relationship we have spent years fighting and bringing out the worst in each other. My kids are starting to be affected by the fights and I have been struggling with making the decision to leave for over a year now.
Three weekends ago, my best friend and I went out for her birthday. We ended up crossing paths with two guys from out of town. My friend had a drunken sexual attraction with one of the guys all night long while the other guy (lets call him Matt) and I had a blast together. There was a ridiculous amount of chemistry and there was a mental connection too. We ended up back at their hotel room. My friend ended up having a fling with the guy she had met, while matt and I spent the night talking and laying close. In all honesty, it was extremely hard for me to keep my hands off, but I did, even though he was trying to do more than just 'talking' and cuddling.
I felt awful the next morning. Matt had given me his card and told me that even though he knew I was married, he wanted to pursue me, and because I wouldn't give him my number, he gave me his. A few days later I told my husband it was time to separate and I am moving out next week.
As far as the situation with Matt goes. I know that I don't need to be getting into a relationship. And in reality, he lives over 27 hours away, so even if I were it wouldn't be realistic. My issue is that I want this man, badly. I have talked to him recently. He knows my situation and he wants to come visit when he' in town in a month. He seems to be a bit of a player (how many guys try to pick up on a married woman) and has hinted about the hotel room.
My question is, what is with this guy? My instinct tells me he just wants sex. In theory, that should be OK, but I am afraid that if I let that happen and then I never hear from him again, it will really mess with my head, especially because of my situation right now. I know I probably seem like a terrible person for this whole ordeal, I have just been so lonely and under-stimulated (mentally and emotionally) in my marriage, that just having a night with someone who made me feel something was like an awakening to the idea that there is probably somebody better for me out there.
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honey, I honestly feels for u... I have been in your shoes, even though the guys that I hanged out with is not looking for sex. but I am not as lucky as u, because guys that I met clammed up after they know I like them. if you like this guy, it's not harmful to befriend him, but keep your body off the limits for him, since you think he's a bit of player, so don't give him any chance of sleeping with u. dear, I can't say if it's a rebound, it's most likely is, since you are having problem with your husband and yes, having someone attracted to you makes you feel like there might be a better person for you out there. world is full of people, don't restrain yourself by paying attention only to this particular guy, you might meet someone much better than him. keep looking and don't be tired of it. if he really loves u, he would stay with you loving you even though you denied him sex. but believe me sweetie, every time the guy whom I like clammed up on me, I always met someone new, and now I am currently making friend with a more matured guy than the previous one, so you should be strong, don't sleep with him that easily, and try to make more contacts out there. bad guys really know when to take advantage, so take care ok? :)0