Is it cheating if my boyfriend and masterbating to other women on instagram?

Question

So last night my boyfriend and I were talking about me getting an Instagram ( cause I don’t have one ) and he was saying he didn’t want me to show off my body cause I do have a curvy body and he didn’t want men saying things. He then proceeds about a page on instagram that has women of my body type and he was joking that I’d be on there and then he talks about a woman that’s on there. And it caught me off guard and I’m like how do you know her tag name like that and he blames it on his friend that he hasn’t seen for a year and I’m like he’s lying to me. And later that night I asked him if he goes on there a lot and he’s like no but he’s laughing at the same time and I know he’s lying to my face. So today I went on the woman’s page cause she’s popular on the other one and I immediately get pissed because I know he jacks off to her and other things. Is this technically cheating since he is jacking off to a woman and not me? Does he see me as not as beautiful as her?

Kenanimator · Accepted Answer

He doesn't respect YOU if he doesn't want you to do everything that he does.
Plain and simple.
IF he doesn't want you to feel erotic as same time he's banging off, he is the problem.
If he doesn't respect you, dump him.
IF you're married, you can always keep it secret from him.
True that it won't help your marriage, but IF you need to see it to be satisfied, why should he complain?

jimyee · Accepted Answer

Is it cheating if people masturbate to porn? No. The Instagram models are often pretty much the same.

jellyroo · Accepted Answer

Wait, when did you find out he's jacking off to this person? Did he tell you or did you assume?

Justforfun411 · Answer

Yes if he's doing that on the internet without your blessing then its the same as cheating. he's not satisfied with you so he's going somewhere else to get his needs met. Time for a new boyfriend.

Zeriya · Answer

I wouldn't say it's cheating, but how he's doing it isn't respectful. So you still have every right to be upset about it.

Ephemera1 · Answer

If a dude is jacking off to pictures of girls on Instagram, he's a sick bastard. There's literally free porn everywhere. That's just weird.

jakeforfun · Answer

He's not into you to the degree you'd like. He's hiding things. He is cheating, in a way, because you might have something to say about him "wasting" YOUR cum, without permission. You might want to get rid of him. Talk to him about your concerns, and see how that pans out.

YeaNo · Answer

I would consider it cheating if he is in contact with them.
Unfortunately due to the internet porn and images like you're talking about are very easy to obtain.
Our generation has serious issues because we've wired our brains to respond to instant gratification.
Same goes for women with selfies.
My suggestion would be to voice your concern with him and to forgive him.
Tell him how it makes you feel, if he cares he will try to stop, but it is an addiction.

akarsh17 · Answer

If u had sex and if he is still doing that it's better u leave him!

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

It depends if you think it's cheating

superduperstarr · Answer

Sounds like you two have some trust issues. Who cares if he is masturbating to other womens pics and masturbating is not cheating. I bet that models boyfriends masturbates to other womens photos and videos. Sounds like you two should do a bit of soul searching or kick each other to the curb.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

No it's not cheating, he's just jacking off to pics on the internet, not with an actual real person. If it bothers you, you should tell him how it makes you feel.