My 3-year relationship ended and, while maybe I was in the stone ages back then, I don't recall much texting prior to my last relationship. Now, I meet girls and they want to text all the time. I'll try to call them, I'll leave a voicemail, and they'll text me later saying something like "sorry I missed your call" and go right back to texting. I've met up with a good majority of the girls I text with like this, but it feels like I'm just making her feel good like a "friend" rather than getting any closer to an actual date. I want to be respectful but not waste time with people who aren't interested.
Am I reading too much into it? How long and how often should I text before I should take a hint? I don't want to call repeatedly, leave messages, and only get texts back. When it the line drawn, or am I too sensitive?
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I'm 22 and I really prefer texting at first because it takes the pressure off and I can think about what I want to say. I get nervous on the phone. However, when a guy does call, I am impressed, because I think, "What a man." Usually the guys that only text me are the younger ones and the ones who call are late twenties or early thirties, so I think it's a dying skill. It's sad that we no longer have to get up the guts to call someone, but at the same time, I sometimes don't want to pick up when a guy calls, and feel more comfortable texting him back. Still, I've known a guy a couple weeks and we've been out a couple times and he hasn't called me, I start to think, "Hmm I don't know about this." My advice as someone who has done quite a bit of dating is this: Texting at first, saying "what's up?" etc, and suggest you two go do something (don't CALL it a date, though, call it hanging out). Then if it goes well, call the next time around, which tells her that you're interested and taking it seriously. I think if she feels the same way, she'll overcome her jitters and answer the phone.2