Well, I am definately not the most outgoing person, and I have never been in a relationship before so I decided to see what people thought of me in the virtual world. Actually it was an application on Facebook called R You interested? We both clicked yes on each other and we began to message each other. The thing is, he lives half way across the world and I can't see anything really happening. First he sent me messages on the R You Interested? site and then he requested me as a friend. This is where it got confusing. I don't trust people that I have never seen before, so I was a little hesitate at first. But he seemed like a normal guy and he gave me compliments and that made me feel really good. We also joked around with each other. I really enjoyed getting his emails. Then he started to not message me as much and I was beginning to feel so stupid for even adding him as a friend. He is a pilot so he has a busy job. But he was adding other "hot" girls, and sending R You Interested? gifts to other girls, so I decided I was going to delete him. I didn't want to be just some "other" girl. So I did that, but then he messaged me back and said sorry, and that his pc broke so I added him again. But I still don't understand how his computer could be broken, yet still send gifts to other girls. I know it sounds rediculous, but it really bothered me. Does this guy even like me? I know that it seems impossible given the distance. But he sends me little messages on Facebook sometimes when he doesn't get around to talking to me for a while saying, " hi gorgeous. how was your weekend? Just wanted to say hi. have a nice day. Mwah xxx. " I like that, but I don't know if I should trust that. He probably says that to all the girls. What should I do? Should I just delete him again? I feel soo confused and stupid. :( I would appreciate any advice.
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It sounds like he likes to flirt a lot. One thing that you need to take into account is that e-mail and IM's and all those other electronic forms of communication leave out so much of what makes one fall for a person.
For instance, my college has its own mini-myspace thing going on for all accepted students to get to meet each other. I met a few girls through there that I am interested in meeting in person and flirted a bit with over the internet but I'm not cashing my hopes on them 100% until I meet them. I only have a basic idea of who they are and how they will act so its hard for a real attraction to exist.
So he might like you in a way, but not in a realtionship way, you need face-to-face for that. Also this is facebook, where there are people who will look up their long lost friend form kindergarden just to break a thousand friends. I would go by my rule of thumb for facebook and myspace, never take it seriously. Also considering the App is R You Interested (Why they didn't go: R You Interested? is beyond me. You already used R, you have to commit.) who's sole purpose is to flirt in a turn-based manner, he's only using the App for what it was designed for; playful flirting over through the cyber community.
He seems to like you more than most, and wants to keep in touch with you. That's no crime. Sometimes you just need a friend even if its just a cyber friendship. Don't take this too seriously and just have fun with it.2