- Yes, I find it attractive in some ways
- No, it personally just gets on my nerves
- It depends..
Most Helpful Guys
How is someone supposed to know if thebother person is playing hard to get vs actually doesn't want to be got. It trains people, men in particular that no doesn't mean no, it means try harder. People need to be honest.
I find it "ok" actually.
Girls will test you because they get hit on like 50 times a day. Most girls this subconsciously so you can't blame them. Remember girls are very selective when it comes to choosing partners. This is their primal instinct.
They're testing if you're an emotional wreck, insecure or a real man. Remember they risk pregnancy and shunned for having too many partners. They're testing for strength. Girls love guys who are strong.
If you don't see them do it, then that means you are passing her tests subconsciously, but you just don't realize it :). Or you literally see it and then get annoyed/feel rejected and hate it.
Some guys also play hard to get unconsciously to challenge the girl.
Most Helpful Girls
It depends on the level, but I like it when a man doesn't play all his cards immediatly. It keeps the flirting and teasing phase going, which is fun. Being rude or making me chase him too long or till the end of the earth or something is a dealbreaker, tho.
"Because, I mean... if you like someone and the person likes you can't you just be together?" No. That's what you call being NAIVE. It doesn't work in real life. This is not a soap opera. I can be attracted to somebody, I don't owe them a date and neither do I expect them to ate me.
"Playing hard to get" is often done as a form of manipulation, just like seduction and lust. "But yeah, I don't judge people who likes it, everyone has a different point of view and I respect that." You judge people based on their actions, not who they are as people. Your mind will change when it's being done to you. Genuine people don't intentionally play hard to get. It's just selfish and ignorant people who are mad and bitter that they can't GET what they want. So they assume that person is just trying to string them along. If I'm avoiding, its because I don't like you, something about is not good or I just don't have the time for you. I have more important things to worry about instead of indulging my flesh. If I wanted something serious with a person, I would say it and mean it. I don't do what I hate being done to me.
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