Most Helpful Guy
Man I don't even want my kids there exhausting. As a single guy, no way in a million years would I take on a woman with perfect kids. There wouldn't be a single hope in hell that I'd ever see you again after witnessing that.
That sounds horrible I know. I'm very sorry for that I'm just being straight.
My kids are basically angels and I love them to pieces but there's still not a second that goes by when you wish you never had them in the first place there exhausting difficult expensive. Extremely resource unfriendly. Resources being time, food, energy, money, well just about anything yourd like more of.
As a single guy looking, when there is no real obligation. Why on earth would you saddle yourself with such huge hassle.
This guys reached middle age without be shackled to that kind of massive moral obligation. i totally understand why he'd like to keep it that way.
That being said
There are guys that love kids, are great with them, even enjoy there company. There's men that wouldn't be put off at all by a ready made family. So there's no reason to be put off dating or men in general. Just like everything else, you just need to find the right guy for your situation.
Most Helpful Girl
He isn’t really being unreasonable, children are a huge commitment to take on and it sounds like your situation is particularly difficult.
I think you’re wrong in feeling that he’s in any way obligated to offer to stick by you and your child and help with his mental health; as he isn’t the child’s father. While I can completely understand the disappointment over him not wanting to, I don’t think it’s fair to expect it of him