I had an epiphany moment. Maybe the reason lots of people dont put genuine effort is the possibility that a "Unicorn" (perfect in every way) person will come along. The small off chance that this amazing person will choose me.
That's when it hit me. Allowing myself a select few of matches at a time limits my options and helps me dive into each person's personality. Before, when I didn't do that and "liked" everyone, I never came close to feeling motivated to carry on past tiny gripes.
How do you swipe? How many others do you talk to at once? How many people do you let have your number? Best of all, how often do you find yourself not amused with that person when someone else more appealing messages you?