Most Helpful Guy
Wow. You’re a doormat.
I am astonished at the shit that goes on amongst my peers these days. God damn. “you can’t resist me...” what the actual fuck is that?
I would have gauged that fuckers eyes out and broke his dick, or hammer a fucking nail into his ass. Honestly, you really should have caused him physical harm in my opinion. You also should have walked away. God damn. What the hell were you thinking?
Oh wait, I know what you were thinking. These things made him attractive because kindness is ugly and repulsive, therefore you wanted to wait until marriage, but also get naked with a guy who wants to force you to lose your virginity against your will. Hmmmmmmmmmmm.
And you haven’t dated anyone since then, ... hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. There just must be too many ugly kind guys around, none of them as good as mister douchebag. Honestly, it’s hard to empathize with you when I know damn well you could have chosen anyone but guys like the one you chose.
You know, if you play with fire you get burned. That’s called personal responsibility.
Now, that guy was a fucking d-bag and he shouldn’t have done what he did. But neither should you. And cry victim blaming, but God damnit, hypocrisy can only go so far.
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like you're not ready for dating or a new relationship. You need to work on your self esteem, confidence and past experiences. You need to learn how to set standards and boundaries, and how to say no. I really think you should talk to a therapist about all of this.
You just have to decide that "I'm not going to have sex until we're in a relationship and I'm not going to kiss until I really want to and at the earliest on the third date" (or whatever you're comfortable with) and then stick to that no matter what. If the guy leaves let him leave, that means he wasn't the one for you and that you do not have the same values.
Never believe you can make a guy stay or want to date you by kissing, making out or sex. It does not work like that. If he wants to date you he will, if he doesn't he won't (but may still take the no strings attached makeout session you're fixering him before he leaves).
Also, Tinder isn't the best app for serious relationships. Most guys are on there looking for just sex. Search irl or on more serious dating sites.