Loose virgin wasn't tight enough?

so my boyfriend was my first recently and that was a really big leap for me i never did that with anybody else. But so after we were done he told me " your jaint wasn't as tight as i thought it would be were you really a virgin? what happened with you past relationships y'all was going out for a long time are you sure he didn't hit?" and would say stuff like that and that honestly made me feel some type of way big time so we got in a mini argument because of what he said. its there something wrong with me because i wasn't "tight" enough my first time? was i right to get mad? should i forgive him? should i just suck it up?
its just a really sensitive topic and hearing that come from him really hurt like i wasn't good enough.

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  • Ok *that* was insensitive of him...
    How "lose" you are depends on a number of things, everything from natural differences between girls to just your grip.
    Basically how "tight" you feel depends a lot on the muscles inside you squeezing him.
    Read up on kegels, pompoir and kabazzah.
    This video might help a bit:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0l69JWHq9d0

    If you haven't had all that many orgasms before then those muscles have not recieved much training to strengthen them that way.
    And if you don't do kegels either...

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  • That was a very stupid thing for him to say. All women are different -some are naturally tight, and some are naturally loose. Just like how some women are naturally more lubricated than others. if he doesn't trust you, then that's his problem. There is nothing wrong with you, and bringing that up to him was the right thing to do. If he keeps hurting you with his comments, you need to continue to bring that up to him. Don't stuff down something like this.

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  • Tell him his dick was smaller than expected. See how he likes that.

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  • Should lay off the big dildos lol, nah but seriously, thats a fucked up thing mostly after you gave him your virginity, an asshole took your virginity, i say if he comes back just dont give it to him, make him regret saying it and then give it to him lol

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  • Girl, you're fine relax. Not all pussy holes where made equally. Each lock has its key ;) and if his key ain't good enough or big enough that ain't your fault. I will say this tho, he has reasons to be concerned. Usually, virgin girls are tight and not "lose" if you want to call it that. Just.. you know, talk it out and sex educate each other.

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  • If you masturbate regularly then that might loosen you up a little bit. Also some women are more naturally wider down there than others.

    And what does he know what tight feels like? Is he not a virgin? If not then he needs to shut up.

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  • Kind of a dick move for him to say. You could have just been hella turned so that he wouldn't have to struggle much to put it in.

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  • Yes, you were right to get mad at him. Men are stupid and don't realize that when a girl is aroused, the vagina expands in preparation for sex. If a girl is "loose", then it means she's turned on. Vaginas do not "stretch" after sex - if it can return to its normal size after pushing out an entire baby, some dude's dick isn't going to put even the slightest dent in it.

    I recommend you explain this to him. If he seems like he understands and is sorry about what happened, then everything is all good and you can stop being mad.

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  • He is an insecure asshole and you should run NOW... he will treat you worse and worse

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  • It was your first time, meaning your pussy will be loose. Because some pussy can be fit, and tight.

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    • And how would he know if you had sex before? Means he had sex before too. I don't see a big problem here.

  • This folks is what infatuation looks like and not love.

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  • He was/ is a douche bag. Dump his ass.

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