We were together, then broke up and spent a few months apart, now we’re back at it. He asked me if I was down to going to his friend’s sister birthday party, I said yes, and he confessed he hooked up with her while we were split up. The only problem is that this is her 18th birthday.
I can’t help but feel literally disgusted. I don’t even want him to touch me anymore, I am so unbelievably turned off. At this point I’m just hoping it passes because if it doesn’t I really won’t be able to go on.
What to do in this situation? I’m just lost
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The girl was 18 and them hooking up when you were not dating is a lot of things but not disgusting. Here people are legally allowed to have sex when they’re 16. She was an adult not a child so whilst I appreciate that you feel disgusted, it’s not actually disgusting on their part. They did nothing wrong.
You want disgusting and in perspective, imagine two people aged 24 and dating then the guy confesses that he had sex with his friend’s sister who was 13! The guy only confessed because the cops turned up to their workplace to arrest him for statutory rape! There was no rape involved (as per the court transcript) but because she was under 16 it’s automatically rape. Now that... is disgusting!
In your case, you have to figure out if you want to be with him or not. If you’re not able to forget it and move on, which you’re not going to be able to do since you find it disgusting, just walk away from him. It’d be a bad idea to even try with that in the back of your mind. You could never feel the same way about him again so why waste both his and your time. The problem is yours and honestly, you’re never going to shake how you feel no matter how hard you try. Sad but true.
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