Do guys ever overanalyze how long it takes for girls to text back?


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  • Absolutely. First thing that always comes to mind goes something like:
    "ok, did I say something wrong? is the conversation over because I did 1 single freaking misstep in the way those conversations are codified? What did I say that WAS wrong? Or did I say something that wasn't wrong but could have been misconstrued as such? Is she busy exchanging messages with other men? Did I ask a question that requires her to steptoe around a difficult subject? Did she need to go the bathroom? etc."

    And then I get back to my senses and remember "the rules" of exchanging messages with a girl, among which is the balance of reciprocity: if I sent her a message, or two at most, I shouldn't send a third without a response from her. I shouldn't appear clingy.

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    • What if she initiated the conversation and then you took a couple of hours and she replied the next morning because she was busy (though you wouldn't know that )? Is that normal?

    • OK. Well in that case, it seems fine and there isn't much need to second guess delays. Because there wasn't a real time exchange that suddenly saw one of us go mute.
      If I took a couple hours to respond and she writes back several hours later, it's totally normal. The exchange is simply not taking place in real time. I'll worry after 24 hours.

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  • I dont know if they do or don't but I'm curious too

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  • I do all the time. Some people are more laid back than others so I have to remind myself not to read too much into it

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    • If a girl texted back the next morning as opposed to after 9 the next night is that normal or not weird to you?

    • I would take it that she didn't want to talk to me that night for whatever reason I can think of

    • What if she initiated the conversation

  • I used to, now I just chill out and be patient. I still kick myself when I check my dating apps and coincidentally log in mere minutes after they have replied. I really don't enjoy the 'rules of texting' but I'm seeing how the results differ now.

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  • I was worried long back.. but not now.. initially Girls text instantly.. As the days progress they reply late.. It doesn't mean they don't like you.. it happens when a girl knows better about the guy as their texting run out of topics.. It's just they don't have the same excitement as they used to have initially..

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  • I used to but not that much these days. If a girl usually delays in response, I do the same when replying. Where I worry is if the person has come online or even read my message (that requires a response) but does not reply

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  • Yes 0.0 mine isn't like I think they're talking to another guy, i have anxiety, and my mind tends to run wild, so im always worried that something happened to them 😅 although it does suck when they leave you on read :/

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  • Mostly just when it comes to my girlfriend, especially being left on read can easily bum me out for a while

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  • Yeah, but I mean, I get used to the fact that everyone has stuff they need to do, and that they are busier than me.

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  • Yes. To the point on insanity

    “Damn I should’ve added a period now she’s gonna think I’m an illiterate nut case”

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  • Na i just get really pissed off... my freind was gonna apologize and it took her 3 days so i blocked her again

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  • No we have important thing to do like talk to other girls, masterbate , find other girls, work and eat

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  • All the time. Especially if they're doing other things on social media at the time

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  • Yes! Its fucking annoying. My ex claimed that she was too lazy to type... yea right

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  • Yes at the begining now i have a lot of posible answers.

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  • Yes! I do it all the time. And I always get angry because of that.

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  • I don't know about guys in general but yeah I do it all the time

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  • Yes, guys/girls, we are all people and have the same feelings

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  • No they don't. they don't even care about this

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  • Being left on read is the /worst.

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  • If I really like a girl I definitely do that

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  • I over analyze everything.
    Its just what I do.

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  • Couldn't care less.

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    • If a girl takes to long then I'll just go and do something else.

  • Nope, I have other things to think about

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  • Yah all the time.

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  • Yes in this century.

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  • nope.

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  • You yes

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  • I never have. I just assume she's busy

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  • I am actually patiently over analysing right now

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  • Ohh yes

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  • Sometimes

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  • Sometimes

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  • Yes of course

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  • Who doesn't? What goes around comes around.

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  • Constantly

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  • Yes sometimes

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  • Yes!

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  • Boys don't think about that shit

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  • Oh yes

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  • WGAF.

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    • You should'nt have such insecurities.

  • It happens, and most of the time they were just playing with me. And i knew they were

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