At what age do you think men stop really wanting a life partner and become happier alone?

I’ve dated a lot of men from 20’s to 40’s and it seems like at a certain point men seem happier just being alone and don’t want to put in any real work to find someone. Anyone else have thoughts on this or notice something similar? I think I’m just giving up and not going to be dating anymore for awhile. I know I’m a great person and would be a great partner and a catch, but I have just sensed this trend overall. Thinking the next step is getting a dog.

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  • I'd say this happens more after the 30's because for most guys, the testosterone haze dies down enough where they gain more control.

    I've been single for ages and plan to keep it that way. Only one girl in the last 10 years made me briefly reevaluate my stance, but after about 2 days of weighing up the pro's and cons, freedom still won out.

    Bear in mind the girl was an attractive, half my age (she thought we were the same age though), very intelligent, well spoken, and easy to get along with girl.

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    • So if I’m dating, am I better off approaching guys in their 20s?

    • Guys in their 20's are more likely yo just want sex and many will see women a few years older as some kind of conquest to tell their friends. I know guys that are in their 50's that say they are looking for a relationship, but when you examine their real motivation, it is sex.

      You need to find a guy that truly knows himself including his unconscious and conscious intent. The problem is not so much age, but level of consciousness.

      What are you really looking for?

    • A companion and partner

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  • It’s not just men.

    But by 35-40, you stop caring about societal pressure so much and do what works best for you. Some people are better alone.

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    • Perhaps, if that’s what you really want... But I think my problem has been finding an equal partner

    • There are guys looking for that too. It just takes longer to meet people in our 30s.

    • I’ve seen that mid 40s relationships seem to bloom as people are more emotionally healthy after getting over their first marriage ending.

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  • I think it is probably 40s but once they hit 50s they become interested in marriage again because they don't want to die alone.

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  • I think that after being alone for a long time, everyone, sooner or later, acclimates to that experience and no longer starts seeking marriage or whatever.

    Particularly for men, but probably also for women (I just don't know) here has to be a compelling reason to start dating at that point.

    Still, I think anyone can have that re-awakening, it just takes more of a push to get it going.

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  • It's not an age it's an experience if you really want a guy and you want to keep him. Well if you wanted me then show me that you can help me be better. And always be there with positivity loyalty and faith. And being great in bed helps

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  • I'm now 30 and realised I no longer want a life partner although I have been with someone for 11 years 😔

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    • And why don’t you want a life partner?

  • There isn't its an experience that would cause that not the age. if i can't get a girlfriend before im 25 i might just give up

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  • happened for me a couple of years ago but was combined with 'coming out' as a happy masturbater and porn user

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    • Okay, kindof a sad existence in my opinion, but okay...

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    • Ah okay I see, well as long as you are happy that’s what matters

    • indeed and i hope you find happiness too

  • My ambitions are what drives me not the pursuit of a relationship

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    • Okay well it sounds like you don’t really need or want anyone so that works for you

    • Yeah, but I’m more likely in the minority especially at my age.

  • I don't know I'm 52 years old and I still want a life partner

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  • It happend..., when the fire nation attacked, i was 31 and just fed up.

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  • For me, that would probably be around age 50.

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    • Even now I won't go looking for a relationship because doing so is often unrewarding and dangerous. You could lose your life before you get the girl. And even if you did get her, there's no guarantee that she really loves you for you or that she won't leave you when you get sick or crippled or for someone younger, richer, more muscular, or better in bed.

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    • @Truthatanycost This goes to show why I have never dated. I should not like to be used and thrown away like that. My deepest sympathies are with him.

    • I may be wrong, but I get the feeling she just wanted children, and once she had them it was already over. I think he's doing ok. He was a really good guy.

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