Dating profile. If I don't like someone, should I politely reply or not reply at all?

I recently opened a profile on a dating site. When I receive messages from someone I am not attracted to, what is the best way to respond? Is it better to politely reply or not reply at all? Some men get upset when I don't reply. I feel really bad because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
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One of my friends said "Just don't reply. It is better not to reply at all". I wasn't sure, I thought not replying is rude, so I say something like "Thank you for your offer. Sorry, but I am looking for something else". I had guys being upset about reply like that too.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Politely refuse. The example reply you gave in your update is great, just instead of saying 'Sorry, but I am looking for something else' just say 'Sorry, but I'm not interested.' Guys might message back saying you don't know them enough yet and that they might have what you're looking for if you accept them and it can lead to a lot of pestering. It's not a good idea to ignore someone's messages at all. It leaves off on a much more negative feeling on average compared to politely refusing and it can make you look rude or cocky if you don't reply because it makes it seem like they aren't even worth a reply which is just a part of human decency.

    There will be guys that get upset about you no matter how well you put it. It's just how some people are. They take certain gestures as an attack, feel undervalued and/or feel the need to lash back or prove you wrong.

    Don't take any of these things to heart or feel guilty about it. The important thing is that you made your intentions clear right from the start and tied a loose end at the same time.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I'd say don't reply. I never double message, no reply to me means not interested and others should realize that. How would it sound if an interviewer called you and said, Hello, is this Miss Tortoise?, oh yes we're calling to let you know you don't match the skill criteria and we will be giving the job to someone we find competent, okay bye now.

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    • Honestly, I would prefer a polite reply. When I was looking for a job, I really liked it when they replied. So, I knew to move on.

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  • It is better to stay silent then building up false hope😉 i hope you understand

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    • I am getting conflicting opinions. Some say it is better to reply, others say not to. Personally, myself, I would prefer a reply because I value clarity. Some men voiced their frustration when I didn't reply.

    • If you won't reply to me i think its enough for me to understand that you are not interested unless I'm a psycho

    • now I'm also in a bit of conflict...

  • I always replied to all messages, whether I was rejecting or just answering to get to know them. It's your choice what you do.

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  • As you want. It depends. In the both cases, guys will be disappointed. It is kind from you to answer. Do as you feel depending the guy ^^.

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  • Just don't reply most of the men on those sites have no feelings like me. They're just guilting you into making the feel special.

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  • Either/or is acceptable.
    Perhaps reply unless they're being really douchey. Simple and to the point; just a "thanks, not interested" is all you need

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  • politely reply

    because imagine someone can do the same to you too

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  • Just refuse politely...

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  • I think no reply is probably best

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  • Don't reply at all

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