Me and my boyfriend both have depression and I don't know what to do?

So me and my boyfriend recently just started dating but i knew him for about a year and i realized before me and him got together our depression was jusy getting worse and now its kinda out of control and i dont know what to do. I love him so much its just scary...

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  • I'm not a psychologist, but as far as I know depression is caused by one or both of two things:
    1) Lack of certain chemicals in the body. See a specialist for that.
    2) Lack of meaning in life. If this is the case, join the search.

    Depression caused by lack of meaning is a growing global epidemic. But once you start actively searching for it, you are part of the sollution. You won't get better immediately. You might even feel worse at times, but you will be alive as long as you keep searching. And one day, you might find it.

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    • Im in counciling but it doesn't really seem to do anything anymore

    • I think counceling is like all medical help.

      It helps the body heal, looks after it along the way, puts some parts in place, takes some out if needed. But in the end the body heals itself.

      It's not quite the same with the mind. I think that requires conscious efforts to really get better.

      The doctor can't make your journey for you. Seek meaningful, purposeful activity. What ever it is for you at the moment.

    • Oh, and it's not quite so obvious, but the most important thing is that a meaningful activity should connect you to others in a positive way. The root of depression and aimlessness is the lack of psitive connection between you and others.

      That's what I believe anyway.

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  • I hope this works out. Usually its hard when both people in a relationship have a mental illness. My best friend has bipolar depression and her boyfriend has anxiety and whenever it gets too much she comes to talk to me. It can work. Stay strong. I'm also dealing with my own mental health problems so I can understand to some extent what you're going through. I wish the best for you in your relationship :)

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  • Make a plan to better your life with short simple steps. That way you can see progress of accomplishing goals. Simple things work to start. Tired of your job put in applications 5 a week. You'll either get a better job or a pay raise in the first 2 months.

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  • If you ever need somebody to talk to then don't hesitate to message me. I understand what your going through, iv been suffering from depression for over 10 years and battling it alone. It's not a nice place to be.

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    • Yea I've had it for about 5 years now and it just sucks ya know its like my life just started going good then it just gets pulled from under me

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    • It doesn't matter I'm not trying to hit on you or be a creep, it's purely to give you some help and support if you need it.

    • I know im just sayong so if i say somwthing stupid thats why

  • That's not love Dr it's ur attraction to him.. u just don't have to think more if he is influencing u just breakup 😊

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  • See a psychiatrist, and both get an antidepressant.

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    • I am he isn't

    • If he is unwilling to take steps to have a healthier life, and a better relationship, you may want to re-consider staying in a relationship with him. it's one thing to be in a relationship where someone has issues, and is willing to work on them. It's entirely different if he is unwilling to be healthier and better. That does not bode well for your future, if he stays in that rut.

  • What's wrong with life? Depression is not accepting what's happening to you right now. Why aren't you accepting it?

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    • Thats not what depression is. Depression is like screaming in a crowd of people and everyones just looking and not doing anything

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    • Send me a private message buddy

  • Are either of you in treatment?

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    • I am but he isn't cuz his mom doesn't even know he is depressed

    • Well there are two things you can try to accomplish right there :)

  • Why depression? For what you fear?

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  • Get help. It really does work

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  • That's not a good match.

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