How to you find time to date when you are working all the time?

I'm in a pinch, I have a career, make good money, have a house, truck etc... Yet I have to work. I work 50 to 60 hours a week and when I get home I relax I don't go out because after a week's work I want to relax. I don't have time to go out and socialize with people.
I called my brother who still lives in my mom's basement and works part time. Who just found a girl firiend. He had aloy free time, work out etc... Yet here I am working and slaving like a dog just to pay bills.

Should I just throw it all up in the air and quit my job to socialize or interact with people? I live away from home and only go back for one day.

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  • I can guarantee you're wasting time somewhere and just don't see it. I've worked those hours and had a social life, while also working out at the same time. As @Wonderer89 said. It's a choice.

    Look at your time similar to how you look at your budget and you'll quickly see how much time you really have and where you're choosing to spend it. Everyone has 168 hours in a week. Assuming you take the optimal 8 hours of sleep daily that is 56 hours out.

    So 112 hours left over. Working 50-60 hours a week you're working with 52-62 hours of time for personal needs/free time.
    I'm assuming 10-12 hours work Monday through Friday. Which means 4-6 hours 5 days a week of free time for eating/shower/shitting and whatever you like to do.

    Then both Saturday and Sunday each have 16 hours free time, with sleep already accounted for...

    That's a lot of fuckin time lol. Unless you're spending a night out on the weekend most people don't hangout for a full 4+ hours on a daily basis. You can have regular meetups with friends/coworkers, go to a bar for an hour or two and still have your alone time.

    Even with a bad commute that's 2-4 hours 5 days a week free time and 16 Saturday/Sunday. And if you do have a bad commute, then you should consider moving closer to work. You'll be shocked how much stress magically goes away, when traffic no longer exists to you.

    Being able to go home a nap in your bed for 40 minutes, eat and still get back to workon time over lunch break is heavenly. Lol

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  • “when I get home I relax I don't go out because after a week's work I want to relax”
    That’s the time people socialise. They choose not to relax, and stay home taking it easy because they prioritise a social life over it.
    It’s a choice

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    • ^ this

      Most people consider socializing relaxation. A night out with friends helps you recharge. You just have to choose to be more social, over having your alone time. Even after work you can go home. Shower. Nap. Then go out if you were serious about having that time.

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  • Well, what's more important to you right now, money or having some time to live before you're old and grey? Simple as that really. If you're able to cut your work hours down, do.

    When you said you're working to pay bills, are you struggling if you don't work the fifty hour week? Do you need to work that much?

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  • No, just keep at it. Everybody has the same challenges but find time to date, socialize. Make that as important as the other things that are important to you.
    Invite a nice girl over to relax with you. Find one that likes what you like. This is a match made in heaven.

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  • You shouldn't be working that much. There are lots of other jobs you could try out... Why don't you take a break from this job, Take up a different job and see how it goes. If you like it better then you can stay at that job or if you find your original job better then you can go back to that one.

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  • Sounds like you need tinder? Lol but seriously... find one night out of the week to relax and unwind, hit up a movie or a bar/ restaurant solo... no harm in catching a bite to eat or a 2 drink date nite solo. Who knows Mrs right could be right around the corner. Never going to know until you get yourself out there 😁

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  • If you dont enjoy your job, quit. Dont live your life half heartedly. If you really enjoy your job then find a compromise between the two. Work less hours

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  • Is there anyway that you can cut down on some of your costs so that you can cut back on some of your hours?

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  • Just lessen the hours then, but doing the math you should have time 168 hours in a week minus 60 is still 100 hours in a week if you sleep for 6 hours you have about 50 hours left or more that should be plenty but if not lessen the hours

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  • Sleep is usually the first thing to go, it doesn't advance my career, pay the bills or get me laid so being tired all the time is acceptable.

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  • Dont give up any of that for a relationship. The best partner is one that compliments your life, not rearranges it.

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  • No

    You should find an alternative where you can socialise and still do your job.

    Try spending your free time doing some small talk with your neighbors.

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  • I've been in the same situation and I hated it. It is possible to date and work, but it is hard. You basically use dating apps (all of em) and seek women who have very little schedule of there own. Then you find one that is ok being on her own while you work.

    I quit a job that 48hrs a week in it's slowest times because they demanded we switch to 7 day a week rotating shifts. Now I make more and work less. It has really fixed my life. Obviously you have the house and bills to worry about, it's a big decision either way.
    I don't recommend putting off the decision either, I wasted 10 years of my life on over work and it stole 10 years of my looks.

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  • It's only 60 hours so you get 4 days off a week that should be plenty of time to socialize

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  • Can you still live at home and continue your career? If you're barely able to keep your head afloat it might be safer to live at home

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  • Date someone from your workplace

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  • Honestly, you always got time to socialize, try going out for a drink with your workbuddies and work yourself from there. You don't have to go out every single weekend to find someone, be patient and if you still think that's too much time consuming, try online dating

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