Is this a stupid reason to break off with someone?

boyfriend and I met on tinder, and we've been together for over 4 months. He tells me I am perfect the way I am, and that he loves everything about me. But I smell bullshit, cause society tells women to be a certain way (guys too). And to look a certain way, as men are wired to go with a slim body and tall legs. I am short, and chubby as a bunny. Or chunky whatever you wanna call me. I LOVE FOOD, and it seems to be to be my downfall as I am a stress eater. MY boyfriend seems to be busy all the time, as he's a farm boy and a full time worker. WE normally hang out on saturdays but that's it. WE live an hour apart and sometimes I drive up to see him and sometimes he drives down to see me. (sorry if this is getting long.) But I just feel like maybe he deserves someone in his town, because I feel like I am not seeing him enough. It's taking us a while to getting to know each other and I am like running out of conversation topics. He's pretty shy, but he's not at the same time. I am just socially awkward lol. There's so many better girls out there, and I feel like I am selfish.. needy.. unorganized and filthy. I am overweight and nobody wants an overweight girl, and I feel that if someone gets an overweight girl they are telling their friends that they couldn't find better. I have so many flaws, and my pros are outweighed by my flaws. I told him we rarely ever see each other, and it seems like his friends and family are more important than I am (I get it, family is always there) but once a week if that. But when I am with him, I get butterflies and I get nervous (in a good way.) I am trying to work on my weight but it's so fucking hard for me. I am always told to lose weight, but I feel like he deserves a hot chick. And sometimes I think that if I was hot, he would make more time for me.. So?

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  • You are really self shaming in this post, it's not bullshit - I'm sure he loves you the way you are and he also loves your determination.

    As for conversation topics, you know you are really connecting with someone when you can sit in complete silence together and feel comfortable.

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    • Yeah you're right, we do sit in silence a lot. And I feel like I should be talking, but I am at loss for words.

    • You sound super shy and insecure, but you'll get better in time! Don't give up :)

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  • Hey, do not ruin the relationship because of your insecurities. The image of hot girl media puts in our head is more serious for girls. But it isn't just real. I myself like girls older than me, a bit chubby, and because of certain sex positions I prefer them being taller than average since I am quite tall myself

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  • I think it is stupid for you to think all that at this point. It's only been 4 months first. Second do u trust what he says about loving? If so, then give him a chance i guess. Stop over thinking this stuff. A flower grows slowly, a fruit grows slowly. This is a relationship, it requires trust, communication and love - give it time to grow. Understood that you are insecure about your health but that certainly doesn't mean you have to demotivate yourself about things that you can simply overcome with hardwork. If u love him and want him to have a hot chick, believe in yourself and your weight losing goals and work towards it if u think weight is a problem in this relationship.

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    • Good luck with your relationship and sorry for being rude but ur self shaming. That's no way to be in your own life or any one else.

  • Well if he loves you for the way you are, don't break off with him. I'm short for example, and try to exceed in everything I do and try to be confident, because just how you think guys don't want overweight women, I believe women don't want short guys, just be glad you can change your weight and that he loves you for the way that you are.

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