I’m too old for this?

I catch this man staring quite a bit, he looks away when I do catch him. Often times he magically shows up in the same hallway as me, knows exactly when I’ll be at school, makes small talk, looks directly at me, blushes, then runs away to do “work”. My friends have noticed him looking for me, or when he sees me, he makes a point to get in my line of sight so I’ll notice him. He gets really excited and makes a shocked expression when he sees me, full animated eyebrows, wide eyes, kind of like my kid when we hit up a cupcake shop LOL!!
Recently when I showed him my class graduating composite, he asked if he could have a copy, or how he might go about obtaining one.
This saga all originally began in 2015. He was my instructor then, I his student. Flash forward to January 2018, and it’s all picked up right where we left off, nothing much has changed except I’m sensing he’s very interested now, or extremely nice. He transferred over from another college as their instructor and now is at the college I attend. I recently graduated and I felt like that might change the dynamic between us, but nothing. He made it a special point to let me know he attended my graduation, even grabbed my arm in the applause tunnel, and wanted a picture with me afterwards. He’s very shy, super intelligent, but that’s not enough of an excuse for me to say “he’s shy, he won’t make a move”. What am I missing? Is the age old saying “if he’s interested he’ll pursue you” still true?
Help! I haven’t dated in many years, is this really how men are now?
(Background info: He’s 34, very backwards as far as dating ie; possibly Amish 😂... I’m 38 and am clueless.)

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  • It's a fine line for sexual harassment and he's trying not to cross it. If you touch him on the shoulder, arm, or lower back he'll get the signal. Things have changed in the past ten years for sure. You may have to make the first move if you're interested.

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    • I agree and especially in the college setting this applies. He’s done the same a few times (touch on the arm), never inappropriate, always polite. Thanks for the comment!

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  • Well if he is shy that could be an issue, he is persuing but clearly doesn't think he has a chance and is trying to find a clue to what you think about him. I'd say flirt, a lot and if that's not working just increase your directness until he finally figures out that yes he has a chance (well if your interested in him anyway). I don't think he is just being nice, he seems interested, very interested. So you might need to make a move (he might be afraid your not interested or he for what ever reason is lacking confidence in himself and doesn't think he has a shot with you so he wants to get as much confirmation as possible before going. Or he could be so inexperienced that he doesn't know how to approach you in which case if your interested you might just have to be upfront with him (if he keeps doing this, you might just have to ask him if he is going to ask you out or just keep admiring you from afar to get the ball rolling).

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  • Im curious to know how he looks when he sees you as you described 😆

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  • He obusly to shy and what do shy bairns get NOTHING lol c

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  • Just ask him, fuck that whole "men should take the first step" dynamic

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  • Yeah you're too old for this

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  • He acts like a creepy teenager lol

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  • if you're too old for it. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT

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