Clarify; if you found out the person you're dating is asexual (little desire for sex with any gender), would you be willing to look past their lack of desire in bed (but fully willing to participate) to accept an otherwise romantic, generous, caring, loving partner?
Personal Background; I've only had one relationship so far in my life, and I absolutely loved her with all my heart, but I never had any sexual desire for her and always felt awkward trying to make stuff happen in bed. It might be possible I just wasn't attracted to her, but she'a freakin' beautiful as far as I'm concerned, so we chalked it up to me being asexual. And she wanted it every day, often a few times a day, so we jokingly agreed to call her a nympho. But we tried it for two or so years, she even agreed to marry me, but after less than half a year married she gave up on me. Not because I didn't love her with every bit and corner and curve of my heart, but because I couldn't... demonstrate... my desire for her in bed. I could be romantic and generous and loving and caring, just not bed-wise.
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It's hard and you're an example that it doesn't work for people when one of the two is asexual. I'm not asexual, but my ex boyfriend wanted sex all the time and didn't, just occasinaly. We had a lot of fights about it and it was one of the reasons we broke up. It would be better if you find someone who is also asexual. Because being on the same sexual desire level helps in your relationship. Also when you didn't give her all the sexual attention she wanted, she could have felt unatractive or felt like she wasn't enough for you.
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