What dating site profiles turn you off?

For me it's the wealthy hikers, rock climbers, wine connosieurs, or geeky bisexuals, dog lovers, and women who are shamelessly open about having an open marriage.

I just like a real every day woman, and it seems like there aren't many on dating sites. I feel like most of the picks are just chicks who want you to think they're very valuable, intelligent, sophisticated, or important because they're wealthy or have a career with this company or that. And that's all just too loud and pretentious for me.
What dating site profiles turn you off?

Updates:
Really got a lot of great answers from the guys here and wish I could choose more than 2 MHOs. Some of the girl's answers were good but most guys put some very good thought into what they were saying.

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  • Just posting animals, gym pics, only body parts, pics with many people in them, super professional hostclub-guy pictures, guys that hide parts of their face with their hand and or emojis 🤔 oh and pics of brand stuff as well ugh

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  • Pictures that all include filters. - I'm looking for someone i fancy not a snapchat friend.

    Just ask! - You may be really pretty but i have no idea what your about so not going to bother.

    I'm a feminist - Don't have an issue with you being a feminist. just that you feel the need to declare it on a dating site makes me think you're the type of feminist that wouldn't get along with me.

    Pictures of/with their kids - No... just no, even more so when there's a picture of your kids but not you!

    'I like nice arms' - Well I like nice tits!

    I like travelling - So you're not going to stay around long enough for a proper relationship then.

    I'm looking for my prince - You mean you want someone to treat you like a princess rather than a partner

    Rant profiles - The people you're ranting about aren't going to read it. Seriously one profile i saw had please read my profile at the end of her profile! kinda redundant there. And sorry I don't know you so I have no interest in proving myself to someone I don't know.

    Don't be offended if I don't reply, its nothing personal - ... I just don't find you attractive and thought your message was boring.

    Be original in your first message - Tend to find this type has the most generic responses ever.

    Also oh god with that profile!

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    • Omg that is all 💯% true!

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    • @crazy8000 Oh. I'm not on any. And I believe more in 'Demon to some, angel to others' than 'I'm kind, honest, fun etc'.

    • @aialex me neither post you and what I mean, whole body. No tricks filters or cartoon characters. It's misrepresenting otherwise

  • The cliche ones with nothing to distinguish themselves from the majority of profiles.

    "I'm a bubbly, energetic girl who loves a glass of red. Can be shy to start, but will open up when I get to know you better."

    In girl language this translates as: "I can't be bothered putting effort into this profile so I'm going to make it seem like I'm a popular, social girl when really I just sit at home watching Netflix. At the same time, I'm going to portay myself as cute, mysterious, and endearing to hide the fact I have little social skills, am very shy and awkward; expecting you as the guy to carry the conversation and keep me interested with your humour."

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  • I actually was really picky when I was on dating sites briefly, but that's because the sort of guy I try to avoid seems to be the most common ones there. I did actually find my current boyfriend on a site and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me <3

    As someone else said "looking for a good time"~ seems to mean only wanting sex
    Also those who say they love partying and going down the pub
    I'm not into guys who are into the gym~ gym pictures won't impress me no matter what, nor cars
    Photos with no clothes on or club pictures turn me off too.

    Apart from the stuff that gets written or photos, these are my personal preferences which are dealbreakers and I don't think they're unreasonable since there isn't any middle ground to them.

    Someone one not wanting a serious relationship
    Someone not local to me ( I don't drive and work a lot so LDR is not going to happen)
    Someone with children
    Someone who does drugs

    I'm aware I'll probably get loads of downvotes but I'm being blunt and honest and won't lie about what I like :P

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    • same here... I wanted the same stuff you said you wanted and some what found a decent guy online as well... :) I'm glad you found your love. Good for you!

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    • @OliviaDenny2000

      I've head that a lot, but it doesn't make sense to me. I agree that it is easier for girls in the sense that they get messages and don't have to take the 'risk' of messaging people that don't respond.

      There is still about the same amount of girls and guys in the world though. A girl might get a hundred or thousand messages, but it's not like each girl has 100 or 1,000 dedicated guys to pick from. Those guys likely sent another thousand messages and won't pick every girl that responds.

      Girls are kinda like house sellers, and guys are like the buyers. The girl may get lots of offers, but those buyers likely sent offers to many sellers and are looking for the best property they can get.

      Maybe I am completely wrong though and dating is easier for girls beyond that though.

    • @OliviaDenny2000 Actually the issue is that women on dating sites treat men like a meat market. Whether guys message them or are desperate or not, women still act like they're going to sit back and take their pick or wait for men to show up, then when they do they're not happy. I think dating sites actually fuel women's sense of self-righteousness without men having to do anything.

  • Ok that particular one is very tacky, but you're not obliged to respond. There is so much bitterness in your heart, I can tell from this question and others youve asked that you have a dangerous desperation for intimacy. And anytime it's denied to you you decide to lash out against attractive women, or all women in general, your a fox who can't get his grapes and so you insist that they're all sour. Its a dangerous mindset.

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    • @lettylou "A dangerous desperation for intimacy" - Lmfao! That sounds like some kind of extreme, psychotic psychologist's interpretation. I love the way the females like you try to diagnose me and tell me how I hate women, yet the attacks always come from your group.

      My Take bothered you because you know inside yourself that it's true, so you need to find or do whatever you can to undermine or discount me, and it doesn't work.

  • Guys posing with some fish they caught, guys in their underwear, guys that are just looking for a friends with benefits, ...

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    • really there are dudes posting pictures with fish? 😂

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    • Are these separate things or one thing?
      Are there men in underwear showing off fish they caught trying to get a friends with benefits thing going?

    • Hahahaahaha

  • There is nothing wrong with being a hiker or with being bisexual. Also wine snobs know their love for wine is a very niche thing lol. The open marriage thing I get. Polyamory is not for everyone.

    I use ok cupid and it shows a match % . The hard no’s for me are being too religious, too conservative, being a socialist , being mysoginistic, having children , sjwus are the biggest hard no , terrible spelling , being boring on messenger, and not having a good job or a college degree.

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    • Then you definitely fit the description of the women I'm talking about who are not desirable for me.

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    • A job and education is important for a woman too. My resume is good for a woman my age , I started up Marriot’s M Beta wine shop , and I actually do the wine buying for a wine store.

    • "Date me you bigot". Lol, no.

  • I don't see how hikers and rock climbers are a turn off exactly? It's called selling yourself and making yourself look like a good candidate to date. A lot of people think those who don't have hobbies or do anything exciting are bland.

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    • It's about the kinds of hobbies you have. I'm not impressed with your rock climbing or hiking trails. I'm more interested in a woman who has regular, every day activities. I need all the wild adventures.

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    • "Do i play video games but sometimes i take a long ass break from playing them. Still a gamer and its my hobby but whatever man.."
      That's not what I said.
      What I am saying is you shouldn't call yourself a gamer if you player The Last of Us and Tomb Raider trough once, and the rest of the time you were playing Kinect Sports or something. I don't know.
      It's hard to draw a line between when you are a casual, and when you become a gamer. But generally, once again, you can tell from the moment you ask the person to play a game. Same as with any other hobby.

    • Here's the funny thing, I don't like profiles that hit hard on the "selling yourself", because if they're so great, they won't have to be selling. I got MARRIED using a profile that was almost entirely about how hard it can be to live with me and all the baggage I have. Some women actually like honest men.

  • Okay, okay, what's wrong with rock climbers? I mean it's a legitimate sport and I love it. 😆😂
    What's so bad about it? It shows dedication, athleticism, and passion.

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    • Nothing entirely. It's just that I'm not really impressed with that as a woman's great big fun thing to do. It's just so showy.

    • It's fine and converts an important message to readers. Pictures of your sports car are ok, better if it's older. Best if you are in it at a track.

  • I don't like the fish pics, the big ugly dog pics, sunglasses pics when none have you without them. Profiles the instead of telling more about them and what the like it's all about stuff the hate and telling people not to swipe. Blah blah blah.

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  • What's wrong with rock climbing, dog loving and wine liking?

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    • Nothing entirely. It's just that a lot of these women want to be reeeeeeeally showy as if they're very active and "have a life." Whatever happened to a simple every day woman with every day activities? I get tired of the pretentious career women who over do it.

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    • @ManOnFire

      I appreciate that. Maybe I'll make some Takes one day, but I feel like people mainly only want to listen to what they already agree with.

    • @cavmanier That too is very true, and you see that a lot here on GaG, but I think deep down they know what somebody is saying is true but they just can't face it.

  • Well, most girls have to prove something because they think they're boring otherwise. An "average" girl in my opinion just probably won't get a lot of hits and they think this as well.

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    • It's the "average" girls I much prefer.

    • I think most girls get a lot of hits, if they are average or better in looks, regardless of what hobbies they profess.

  • I once found a profile that said 'fuck you or fuck you up'.

    So conceited.

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  • I haven’t been in dating sites in a while. But this profile is about as fake as they get. She’s cast her bait and ready to catfish the hell out of any guy that will bite.

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    • That's not true... There's plenty of women who only want sexual incounter dates. IV met them

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    • Hey now!! Don’t try your Rico Suave moves on me 😜 jkjk 😘

    • 😂😘

  • The fuck is wrong with that girl. And what do you mean you dislike dog lovers? What? Other than that it’s the same for me

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    • I like dogs. I love lizards more. I just get annoyed by all the chicks who are super crazy about their pets.

  • Literally every guy that puts "Alpha Male" in his description.

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  • So, what's wrong with dog lovers? Are you anti-dog? :P

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    • Can't understand that too. I love hot dogs 😋

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    • @loveisbeautiful Unfortunately not but want an iguana.

    • You should get one, does where you live allow pets of any kind?

  • Shirtless pictures are a no for me. Just douchey.
    Group pictures are a no, I’m not gonna play a guessing game of which guy is it.
    Pictures w a deer or animal, not much of a hunter.. don’t find killing animals cute.
    Anything in his bio regarding his dick size.
    Guys on boats. Douchey.

    Actually ANY picture involving them on something nice or doing some sort of exotic thing cuz it’s clear they are showing off and that’s probably not even the real them.

    Yeah tinder is tricky, sometimes you get lucky and meet wonderful people or you just meet nasty bad people and there’s no way around it. I’ve met some amazing guys on tinder, some I’m still friends w! I’ve also met some real assholes. just depends on your luck and your judgement!

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    • So apparently an animal enthusiast male underwear model posing on a group photo with his brother Richard - who is 7'2" - during a Caribbean sea excursion, is a turn-off for you?

      "Actually ANY picture involving them on something nice or doing some sort of exotic thing cuz it’s clear they are showing off and that’s probably not even the real them."
      Literally 99.9999% of girls are posing and angling with their phones in unrealistic way, wearing pishup bras, having their pictures taken by professional photographers, or are taking selfies when on vacation or during something especially interesting.

      "I’ve met some amazing guys on tinder, some I’m still friends w!"
      I hope you realise it is a dating site...

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    • well im gotta be honest this action turned me on there is a pack of 6 beers that has been laying in my fridge for too long i think im gonna smash it right now

    • What if he's feeding a deer out of his hand?

  • well ig u will hate me then, i am bisexual but not geeky (maybe a band geek but most of the guys in my band are hella hot!) and im a lover of all animals. and when you said wine, i had a dream about it a couple mins ago.

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  • More adventurous, you do not really know the person on site, just based on the brief information. Knowing someone in the real life is much more better.

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  • My least favorite dating profiles are the men I come across who always ask for sex/nudes. Oh wait, that's every single heterosexual male on the planet. Maybe men just make me mad?

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    • I don't do that. stop generalizing

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    • @skykid1992, I will admit that some women thought I was very weird when I didn't go for trying to get sex or naked pictures. Reality is very simple: If you are a man and a woman likes you romantically, THERE WILL BE SEX!

    • @HereIbe lol that, s 100% true i also date to get married thats why im 26 and only dated 3 girls in my life. i im currently having a baby in 33 days with my current girlfriend.

  • I too dislike the ones who try really hard to show how much sports they do and how adventurous they are. It often seems very plastic.

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  • The ones where the boys put “send nudes” or “just looking for a good time.” Lol

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    • Yeah and also the boys who you talk to on dating sites who just give one "hey" before they ask for nudes immediately

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  • The biggest deal breaker is negativity. Instead of talking about why someone might want to meet them, and who they might like to meet, they write about people they don't want to meet, like this:

    Don't contact me if you are a cheater, a mooch, ...

    A profile like that tells the world that they are sad, angry, and needy.

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    • Exactly. Well noted.

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    • @bloodmountain1990 The filters should be banned. I know some girls who look different in the pics vs real life.

    • @bloodmountain1990 If they post pictures from some boudoir photography studio, run away!!

  • lmao I HATE DOG LOVERS.

    Pro-tip: Please don't make it seem like you do not have a personality outside liking dogs because thats what it comes off as.

    I also hate profiles that say "I probably won't message you first ha!" Like um okay well good luck with finding someone. I appreciate the honesty though I suppose.

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  • The thing that triggers me is how many of them have some form of medical path on their profile. Literally Every. Single. One. "attending medical school" "studying to be a CNA" "going into nursing" every freaking profile I tap on has some form of it and I don't get it. I don't mind the career path itself or the choice to go that route, but seeing it on literally every profile makes me wanna slam my head into the nearest wall

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  • Well of course it is a big turn down when they just look for someone for money. Quite disgusting. And here in Switzerland there are a lot of women like that, from abroad.
    It is a turn off also when they write specifically that they don't want sex... just someone to hike with, or such things. Then, maybe too show off stuff, nature is ok but extreme climbing would be a bit too much, or boxing or hard sports photos, unless you can see the photos are clearly just for fun (it can be). Then, the ones that have an exaggerated opinion of themselves and write violent things in the description. Not interested, thanks. A funny example was one who wrote: "opinion are like orgasms, mine matters most and I really don't care if you have one". Though she was not the inventor of this sentence, and in some ways it can also be sort of an interesting comparison, I find it quite violent and stupid to write that in a self description. If I have a date and we end up in bed, the truth for me is that it would be bad not to take care of her orgasms too as I expect her to do with me. Self description should describe yourself, and, if that is you, I am not interested in completely selfish people.

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  • Not a answer on that question, but a comment on the girl and her profile:
    I would rather prefer polite sex wirh a boring wife, who fakes her orgasms (to don't make me feel bad, remember!) with... Well I don't have a short one, but oke...
    than to be in a relationship or even just a simple friendship with a arrogant, 0 8 15 barbie slut like you.

    Alright now I can give a answer to that question.
    I don't like profiles like hers (obviously!), I don't like them slutty, or with a hobby that I just can't like a little bit too (there have to be same interests in a relationship to workout for me). Else a child is a deal breaker since I'm not ready for this, asozial pictures and stuff are a turn off as well. Else I want her to have be social, intelligent and to have a good graduation because I want to talk with her about serious topics too, when it comes to a serious relationship. I like it when she smiles, good a picture of herself outside and maybe like pets (pls no spiders or animals like that).

    Ye well so far so good. Since dating apps don't work for me, I decided to don't use them and simply go out at weekend nights.
    So guys we better DANCE OFF! 🕺💃🕺💃😎❤️💪🏼✌🏼

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  • My top: dog lover, vegan, feminist, vegetarian

    "Aspiring trophy wife" usually said by the ones that fall short of 'trophy'. If you're not a 9 or 10 you're not trophy wife material. Not that I'm looking for that at all. it's just weird all around.

    My top turn off for looks:
    Fucking blue hair

    Aka walking trigger warnings.
    Blue hair almost always implies everything I wrote in the first line of this post

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  • Women who "love to travel". "Love to travel" means that they want you to spend LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS of money to go to places they've never been able to afford for themselves. Most of them wouldn't be able to handle REAL travel, anyway. I don't do tourist crap or resorts.

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    • I’ve always wondered where people get the money to travel like that all the time. The funny thing is some of them would tell me I go to a lot of concerts and ask how I can afford it and I tell em well it’s cheaper than traveling all the time.

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    • @bloodmountain1990, to me, they come off as thirsty and gold-diggy.

    • True. Yes. I can't travel a lot though because I hate planes. But either way, I'd make enough money for myself to travel 😊

  • Lol I love that profile
    Oh the thing that puts me off is when you view a profile then don't like it but yet still receive a message of some nutter asking do you like me am I attractive do you think about getting married one day and my favourite one is hi you look like you would make a good dad I'm ready for kids. Now that last was fucked up in so many ways

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  • A lot of them do. First, pictures. If they have those stupid bunny ears or whiskers, or making "silly" faces... total turn off. I wish women knew how much of a turn off it is. Next, in their profile, if they have specific (shallow) requirements of their match, like height, it's a turn off.

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  • I hate the profile pictures where girls have a "silly" snapshot filter like cat ears. If you think that is silly or interesting, I think "ya basic". Look how silly and unique I am by doing this filter 30% of women use.

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  • Dating profiles are pretty worthless, since they are deceptively constructed upon a biased self-assessment of an account owner.

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    • Very strong point.

    • Thank you sir. The sad fact is that written words are second to none in terms of intentional misrepresentation.

  • Any girl who calls herself a princess or is looking for a sugar daddy. Also anyone who uses the eggplant emoji as a symbol for a penis in her bio is a no-go.

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  • The woman smothering themselves with there animals because they are to obsessed with their pets. Love your human to.

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    • THANK you! I can't stand the chicks obssessed with pets.

  • Super generic or blank profiles.

    I’m talking about the ones whose interests literally say as follows exercising, sports, country music (the bad kind), the outdoors, traveling, food, music, etc

    Or even worse, the ones that only say “Just ask” 🙄

    Seriously, what am I supposed to ask you if I have nothing to go off of?

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  • I prefer a realy boring profile of a girl. Just because i could be quite sure, that it is true.

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  • To each there own, I actually really like geeky bisexual women. I also appreciate a woman being very upfront if she is cheating.

    I find the "I just like watching sports and working out" profiles to be a little turn off. First, they probably aren't true, I bet that is like 6hrs tops of their week. Second they rarely give you anything to work with when writing that first message.

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  • Hey so like... What you think about a young 17 year old blackman, 303 pounds, LGBT, Asexual, Gay, Lesbian who identifies as Cat with slight acne? I also like reading, and my favorite books are: Catcher in the Rye and Ms. Fletcher.

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  • I hear ya
    Those ones that seems a sales pitch of how they are so successful and how they are so elite and above the rest...
    It is just kinda the way it is
    A Facebook world where people post glamourized images of their lives...
    Making fancy food for your family post a picture... but you don't post a picture when you get pizza delivered because it are exhausted from a stressful day...
    It is very sad and very unappealing
    Another thing I quite dislike on dating profiles is when they have one of these check lists
    Must be so and so tall
    Must be non smoker
    Must love cats
    Must have an education
    And so on

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    • I swear the guys are giving the best answers here. I wish I could give more than 2 MHOs.

  • I'm 17 n shit but at the end of the day, wouldn't it come down to if you think this relationship would be healthy or one to look forward to or not?

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    • Yeah but you can tell if it will be based on their focuses in their profile.

  • Online dating puts a bitter taste in my mouth. Thinks it in part robs us of some of our humanity, and confidence. I feel you on the women thou, when you see the long list of requirements to talk to them.

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