I would feel bad lying but years of being alone is taking it's toll and my life is slipping away.
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Not at all worth lying about. Let’s say things went according to plan by lying, do you honestly think lying about something so essential to who you are as a person will lead to a happy relationship? Also, relationship/sexual experience is not something I look for in a partner, and I honestly think that is a very shallow standard to hold.
Based on your bio, you’re 24 at the OLDEST, so you have plenty of time to gain experience and find the person you think is right for you... just have faith 😊0|00|0- Show AllShow Less
Inexperience is an essential part of who you are as well; you can’t just fabricate one aspect of yourself or another and expect to be truly happy in life, let alone a relationship
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Then how is it possible to get into the dating world? I need to date to get experience but I need experience to date
You don’t need experience to date. I don’t know where you’re getting that, but it’s just not true.
Neither! Your past experiences aren’t what make or break a relationship; compatibility is the most important thing, and if you’re compatible then it just doesn’t matter
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Anything girl said that she feels disrespected if the guy is a virgin, is this the case most of the time? Like being a virign isn't a choice of mine and I don't understand how is hurts people, but apparently she feels hurt, so I shouldn't I like to protect girls like her?
No, it doesn’t make any sense. Honestly, if I were you I would just forget about her and focus your attention on someone else; if she finds something as small as you being a virgin at 18 “disrespectful”, then you don’t want to be with her anyway
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I'm 23 though, honestly since I got into college it seems girls 18+ date super hot guys in my age range or just older guys who have their life set. Like it seems more about finding the complete self sustained package than someone to grow with.
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Everyone said college was almost like a garunteed. time to meet a girlfriend and it all passed and I'm alone. I really don't know where else to look. At the bar scene in out classed by tons of better men, and i don't think girls would appreciate being asked out at the library or supermarket
Those aren’t the only places to meet people. Find a hobby you enjoy and find a way to make it social. Try taking a pottery class or something like that.
Also, you may be wrong about the library part lol. It sounds like you’re trying to ask out the wrong kind of girls; try going outside of the demographic you normally shoot for by asking out a nerdy bookworm- Asker
I graduated in December. I went out a few weeks ago with freinds and had a really good time with a freinds of a friend who was there,. Like we were joking around having good conversations buying each other drinks, then I went to to the bathroom and she ended up flirting with a bigger white guy and left with him. Like I don't know how to play the game
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I know she doesn't owe me or anything, but I don't know what he did that I didn't do. I don't know what to measure up to
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What do you think I didn't that wasn't confident enough that drove her to go home with a guy who she talked to for 5 mins?
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I understand it's her choice and preferences, but I don't know how to out confident other guys
From what you’ve said, it just sounds like you don’t have a whole lot of confidence, so you should really just focus on things that make you happy and feel good about yourself. Girls will take notice when you start to love yourself more.
I can’t say exactly why she did that, but it kinda sounds like it was a bad setting to begin with. She may have not considered it a date, so when someone else showed interest, it appealed to her- Asker
But if I'm happy alone, then I would never need emotional support right? And because she fell in love with him in like 5-10 mins it means he's more a man righr? Because we were together all night
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And it sounds like confidence depends on the outcome. If she liked me, then I can at I'm confident, but since she went with someone else, I'm not, right.
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The only thing I'm sure of is, the girl validates the means. Girls make the selection and choose who gets to be right or wrong.
No... that’s why I said you should seek confidence outside of dating. You can’t seek validation from other people and be truly happy with yourself
But you said that experience is something that is so essential to who I am as a person. Since I have 0 experience doesn't that make me not a person?