I like her as a person, and we would get along just fine. However, an incident happened where I got jealous and upset after she told my boyfriend that I had to “share him” and she went to my school’s fiesta with him while I couldn’t go because I didn’t have the money for admission. She did invite me though.
But on the day of this fiesta, I was already mad as it is, so when he doesn’t show up to walk me home like he usually does, I was pissed. I marched my way down the stairs, found him, pulled him, and we got into an argument. This argument we had lead to numerous things.
By night, I was done with the day. She called me cuz my boyfriend told her what I said and she was “a little frustrated” that I had her name in my mouth. This lead to another argument and my mom got involved.
she told me that the girl said I was clingy and controlling. That I made my boyfriend feel embarrassed, and it hurt me. But cuz I didn’t hear this from him. I rather my boyfriend tell me than through his friend.
we haven’t talked since and after thinking over the whole situation, I feel bad. This escalated because I couldn’t the situation in a better way. Every time I feel this tension I can’t get rid of when she’s across from me. My boyfriend gets upset because I leave to avoid. What do I do?
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Well, if they said you were clingy and controlling—you probably are, at least a little. It sounds like you might be afraid of your boyfriend potentially getting into a relationship with his long time friend. But know why he is with you and know why he’s not with her, limit your clingyness and you should be good. And just be civil to that other girl instead of avoiding her. She’s just a human and she isn’t going to cast you under her spell. Be more mature about the situation, say hello to her, but don’t engage in conversation. Smile, answer with one words, or simple sentences—and don’t work to create a convo. She can’t say anything mean about you being nice, and you don’t have to be a good conversationalist around her if you don’t want to talk to her.