It sucks because everyone says don't worry about it don't worry about but I will be worrying about it when I'm much older fumbling around with a woman who expects me to know what I'm doing
Most Helpful Girl
To be honest, you might want to take pornos with a grain of salt. Yes, they can show you positions/techniques. So can the Kama Sutra. But pornos can be a little misleading. Not EVERY girl likes doing what the girl in the video likes. Not EVERY girl acts like that when she's enjoying herself. And not EVERY guy is hung like the ones in videos (and girls don't EXPECT you to be). So, yes, they can be helpful to a certain extent but they can also be very misleading on what sex actually is - especially for a first time. In my opinion, as far as informational quality - chose the book version over the movie.
Secondly, do you have a girl in mind already and are trying to broach the subject? Or is this more of a hypothetical question?
Most Helpful Guy
Ask again when you have a partner and is about to lose your virginity.
It's easier to give opinions when you describe your background and the girl you'll be sleeping with, like whether she s also a virgin.