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I understand what you mean about double standards but the honest answer would be to lose weight. The reason l say this because people treat plus sized people differently than they do normal people. The same goes with women, you will have more confidence talking to women when you feel great. The truth is women are also visual creatures maybe not to the same extent men are but the majority want a healthy guy because they are biologically attracted to good generics & health indicators. Hope this helps bro.