I'm quoting from what a friend once said to me:
"I keep finding myself getting into relationships with girls i do like but then i decide to immediately shut everything down as i feel like i need some sort of freedom.
I hate the idea that i can't suddenly decide to go off on holiday with a bunch of my mates because my girlfriend couldnt come or didn't want me to go or if i get offered amazing job in another country/city i couldnt take it because i was tied to someone."
I guess it's the situation
Then it’s the individual who is the anchor, not the partner.
I’ve been with clingy girls and my god I would do anything for a moment of freedom but if she offers freedom then I wouldn’t feel held down.
Those types of people are people who have one foot out the door and is looking for an excuse to leave
Cause tons of people are scared of commitment and just want to sleep around today. Or some of them have that "grass is greener on the other side" mentality cause their always looking better instead of being happy with who they have, or maybe they just not ready for a relationship cause of school and other stuff.
They probably aren't ready to give up their freedom for that person.
Because even the person who is most afraid of commitment will eventually give up their freedom if they find the right person.
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Because some people need more alone time, have more hobbies or are just more emotionally independent. Some people don' really have hobbies, or they think dating is a hobby, or they'd rather "hang out and talk about nothing" more than other people. You can like their personality, and their values, but after a long day, most people either want attention, want to be alone, or have their partner mindread which one it is depending on circumstance. If the person does not respect someone's desire to be alone, they often take it personally and create drama because they can't handle "being rejected" when in reality, it's not about them at all.
I just went through something like this. I was with a girl for a while and she was really cool. We got along well and she was not clingy or controlling in the slightest. I had to let her go though because I realized I felt tied down and could not figure out why. Upom further reflection I realized the first problem was I started thinking about what I could have been doing instead of spending time with her. I would also find myself thinking about this other girl I like. This did not happen with my last girlfriend. So my conclusion has been that I am just not all that attracted to this girl and I like her better as a friend. Sometimes people start dating for any number of reasons and then realize theh were not as attracted to the other person as they thought. This could create the tied down feeling.
Maybe they're not ready to commit.
Maybe they're incompatible w/ their partner and feel restricted because of that.
Maybe their life plans/dreams have changed and they no longer line up with the initial relationship goals, etc. etc.
It depends on the relationship.
I love my alone time and start to feel sort of cornered and trapped if things become too serious. It will probably change as I get older and want to settle down but right now, I just can't do it.
For example, I was talking to a guy that I went to school with for about a month, after the first two weeks, he wanted to meet my parents and wanted me to meet his. This obviously freaked me out. He would double and triple text me if I didn't reply after ten or so minutes, most of the time I was at work and unable to get to my phone. He also became really clingy and hated the fact that other guys would check me out. Mind you, we weren't even together. We were just in the early stages of getting to know each other. I got out of that as fast as I could.
Yes. It either becomes boring or irritating that will later on let to lots of interest in one another. So it's important to maintain a certain border line , that is to talk limited and meet frequently. Freedom is important for both. You can't tie anyone down. It's true choice, whether you are in a relationship or not coz we need to breathe and have job and family , studies like MBA etc on the other side too.
u I'd say it's because there are many people who still don't want to make adjustments to their patterns of thought and behavior that are, I think, inevitable in relationships. They don't realize that they are a part of something, that they are an active member of another person's life.
Because people are usually tied down. All of a sudden all the freedom you once had is gone and now you have to share everything in your life 50/50. Life is never the same again. You can't even make your own decisions anymore without discussing it with your partner first in some cases.
In my personal opinion people that feel tied down aren't ready to commit themselves to a realationship therefore aren't mature enough to be looking for one. anyone that isn't willing to commit to a realationship with someone who wants a comment shouldn't be dating at all. they should just stay single
Because they don't know how to just tell their partner they need space or stop and focus on their own goals. Instead they'll blame it all on the relationship itself or the partner who may have no idea.
I think it usually stems from both people wanting different things in life, or being on different paths. Or could be control or inability to commit.
I feel like that sometimes.
I need more free time than him. Many hobbies that I don't find free time because he wants to spend most of our time together.
I like him but need less of him to make space for other things that I enjoy
Those who feel tied down tend to not be ready for commitment in general. People who are happy to commit don’t feel like that, unless (like you said) their partner is controlling and suffocating.
May be in a Relationship Rut. Too much Freedom gets people Thinking: "Gee, what am I missing out there?"xx
I'm not sure, especially if they choose to be in one. Maybe they had bad experiences or are indecisive?
Not ready to stop being single and playing. Maybe thinks they can do better.
Things change drastically from being single and going into a relationship. People’s behavior and personality change because of it. To make the relationship harmonious, sacrifices are necessary.
If you feel tied down you're either with the wrong person or you need to renegotiate the relationship.
I think if a person feels tied down in their relationship, they’re in the wrong relationship.
for me, i’m a very shy person. even bringing up little things can be hard. like asking to buy something that’s not needed, kinda weird... but i swear i have a backbone lmao
I don't feel tied down at all. In fact, I feel better with my girlfriend by my side..
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