When dating do you prefer someone who's your opposite or someone who's more similar to you?

[Pejtu]

It depends i like to drink every Friday with friends or go to bar , club i like a lot of things that my future girlfriend will not like probably but for long lasting relationship u gotta do stuff ""together"" and ""alone"" also because each of us is a individual. You can be in relationship with your personality copycat it will be fun probably because u enjoy things u do together but this can get booring because too much time together is bad also. When you can miss each other it really makes a bond and feelings to that person and understanding. But first of all attraction and communication is key. You both gotta like what you see and i mean looks yes i mean it and just talk to get to know each other. Its simple as that

[Anonymous]

I think of Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston. Back when they got together, everybody pointed and said "There is proof opposites attract".

But in reality, they were similar people. Always were.

I have known couples that were opposites, that when you get to know them, they are more similar than different. It is impossible to generalize something so complex.

I found I like to be similar in certain key ways. I like a woman that understands and can relate to a few items that make up a huge part of who I am. If we are opposites in other, less significant ways, it really does not matter.

[allison13]

Neither. I like to find a middle ground. We have to agree on the really important things like religion or atheism (my partner and I are both atheists), whether we want kids or not (we’re both open to the idea of kids), polygamy vs monogamy (both monogamists). But we’re very different when it comes to the little things and that keeps things interesting. Like we argue a lot about books vs movies, marvel vs DC, how to do the little things like scheduling our day.

[simplyaramdomgirl]

It's not really a white or black or a yes or no answer. It really comes down to who the person is. Obviously I want them to have similar aspects as me, but I don't want them to be entirely similar. They have to bring this mysterious flare with them and I have to be intrigued. If I already know what to expect it kind of becomes a little boring. I don't want to be dating myself, why would I do that? Sounds kind of lonely.

[Oddy10]

For me both are good. Actually i like trying new things but i m too lazy to come out of my comfor zone. If i have someone who is opposite, she can drag me out and show me how enjoyable new things are. That is why i love opposite.
But also, with similar personality you do not need to do much as most of the understanding comes naturally and one dont need to put much effort which is in my comfort zone.
Hence i love both, no matter how different or similar she is as long as we share respect for eachother and give importance to eachother i am fine with both.

[Kurαȷ]

Their interests can be totally different, but their personality traits have to match me well.

Particularly, my partner would have to be a "thinker" rather than a "feeler" (as per Myers-Briggs type indicator) and they would have to sit somewhere on the introversion side of the extra-introversion spectrum.

[CallMeDave]

I prefer similar on key things like interests, spending habits, sex drive, or anything else where significant differences could cause relationship-threatening stress. Otherwise it doesn't really matter.

In some cases differences can be fun and you can each learn something from the other, but if one spends recklessly and the other is a saver or one wants sex twice a day and the other twice a month that can create big problems so I think it's better to avoid those kinds of differences.

[FlutteringFeelings]

It doesn’t have to be the same nor opposite it just has to be significant. I have my values and morals so I’m very strict when it comes to that so the minute that’s off I can careless if we share the same food fav or anything else can be in common. Once that’s off so am I.

[xPurpleRosesx]

My first boyfriend was kinda similair to which made the relationship kind of hard.. but I am currently dating someone who is the complete opposite of me and I it is going better in my opinion.. like I know how to do deal with the difference but we do have some things that are similair so yeah

[MysteriousDarkness]

Too similar or too opposite are not good. Finding a balance is key. For example two people who just wantto stay home besides going to work, doctors, grocery shopping etc will in my opinion miss out on fun stuff to do. I know you will not get to do everything you would like to do. Two people that easily get upset will quickly try to tear each other apart but those that seem happy all the time will probably not want to talk if something is bothering them.

[NawalB]

I’m an introvert I usually date guys who are extroverts, I usually don’t date guys who are that are introverts not by choice but I usually get approached but guys who are more social. And to be fair, I kind of like the opposite of me.

[Alice2398]

I prefer different. Most guys who are into the same stuff as me are usually portentous, hipster, douchebags and I think it's boring to date someone the same as me as well. I want us to learn and experience new things together.

[Anonymous]

Physically me and my girlfriend are the same
We both habe sky blue eyes... long blonde hair (the same length too lol) and we're avg skinny

And we're totally opposite in behavior. Like she's super active... im lazy... we like different food shows songs all that.

[shrav2307]

I think opposite... Because like it is said opposites attract I guess when the person you are is completely opposite from u... U tend to listen to them and not completely ignore their opinion cause u can get a completely different answer which can help u in your situation... And it's also fun

[jmac23]

If you seen the movie guess who with Bernie Mac and Ashton Kutcher then you know. "She's my better half and without her I'm not whole".

[Ellie-V]

I want someone who hold similar values but I’d like them to have a completely different personality and attitude than mine.

[StellaGreenEyes]

More opposite. I need someone who can balance me, challenge me and who won’t give in to me all the time.

[CandacePerry]

Similar. my current boyfriend loves video games and he know that he doesn't play video games all the time. we both like Sushi.

[Pettyboifloyd]

Opposites tend to cause chaos which can be fun and lively but could also catch you off guard.

[Calixx]

I like someone in the middle - there has to be some similarities, and some differences.

[ScaryCool]

I get them having some differences but I'd like to have some things to relate to.

[zbivinz]

Studies have shown that people who are more similar to their partner tend to be happier. There's very little evidence for the "opposites attract" theory.

[pitzi]

Similiar... I wouldn't date someone who believes the total opposite things

[MindTime]

I like someone I can connect with who also gets me out of my comfort zone, so more extraverted than me

[reixun]

I think both, simultaenously. Like, similar in humor but different in hobbies

[WeirdoWerdo]

Similiar enough so we can relate to each other but the opposite enough so we learn different things from each other.

[Myk13]

Dating for marriage, similar.
Dating for fun, opposite.

[NumbAndUnchanging]

Opposite but with some similar interests. Im extremely selfish and very prone to depressive relapses. I wouldn't want the same in a person.

[Leonz]

The character can be opposite. This could be more exciting. But some interrests should be simular cause I want to spend a lot of freetime with my girlfriend.

[torwulf]

Most physiologists seem to agree we're attracted to people with similar personalities to our own.

[Lance1965]

I prefer similar but chances of that happening are a 100 to 1 with some people.

[nsyprkr]

Similar. Because he understand me well then. Our characters must be close.

[myw06001]

I feel like it would be easier to talk to them if you had more things in common. But I think attraction is more important.

[donnyw6]

The reason I choose similar is becaysevitsbeasoer to understand and if the run out of something your more like to have it

[TomatoeUnicorn]

A few differences are good, but common interests help keep conversations flowing.

[deric_97]

Similar personality and work ethic. Opposite dreams, desire and taste.

[Jack0fth3trad3s]

Opposite. I need some fight or differing opinions or it gets too boring too quickly.

[SaltyBooze]

none of the above. i preffer honest, healthy people.

[Mikey_Ramone]

Anyone. I still believe we can change to the ones we love. But better be a similar one. ;)

[ZeussLightningBolt]

They have to be similar, otherwise it will be silent and awkward the whole time

[Natalie11299]

Similar, but I also like to mix things up a bit

[HornetsFanAllDay]

probably similar, but it really doesn't matter, long as both like each other

[kaskas19]

A mix of both I think

[IAmAGem]

I love learning about different cultures, and proliferating new ideas.

[lukazervaki]

Polar opposites I guess.

[Sociopathvictim]

I prefer someone who is different 😭🔪

[Yoshi0125]

Oppsite is more interesting then similar

[wonderwoman1994]

Somewhere in between

[Matt57]

Definitely similar

[fatid]

In between tbh

[LegateLanius]

I prefer the same values.

[Anonymous]

similar

[coolvin]

Similar

[Bernard2013]

I want a honest

[Iloveapplepies34]

It depends on a lot