Would you ever go on a double date for a first date?

Or , do you prefer a first date to only be the two of you?
Would you ever go on a double date for a first date?
Would you ever go on a double date for a first date?



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  • No, my dating style was all about getting as close to the girl as possible (physically, emotionally, mentally) as soon as possible, since I'm the type that's dangerously close to being friend-zoned with an easy-going style all the time unless I start seducing a girl.

    Like with my now-wife, for example, we had been long-time friends and she initially rejected and friend-zoned me in response to asking her out since she thought I was a playboy type since I was dating different girls all the time. I managed to finally make her succumb to going out with me on a date at some point, but had to make up for her hesitance where I had to really step up the seduction to the point of jamming an emergency stop button on an elevator and grabbing her and kissing her out of the blue as a last-ditch effort, which thankfully worked (I see that as what ultimately got me out of the friend zone with her as she now tells that story a lot with pride).

    If our first date was a double-date, I probably never would have found that chance being alone with her, and we'd probably just go on being friends after saying goodbye with little happening between us beyond some friendly conversations (as usual).

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  • i have done both, in my early teen years when i was still just a little shy Asian boy, and my puppy love was a shy Asian girl. my best friend at the time already has a girlfriend for a while. so i asked him if he can help me out and set up a double date for our first date. during the first date me and my puppy love didn't hold hands for a while so my best friend and his girlfriend at the time started walking outside of us and slowly forced/pushed us to walk closer and closer, and that's when i finally picked up the courage to hold her hand and also since then i had overcome my shyness haven't needed much help for dating a girl on first dates again.

    just because it's a double date it doesn't mean both couples have to stick together the entire day. the way i usually do double dates is like this: we all go together but once we arrive at the destination, and let's just say the destination is at a mall. if the couple is brand new, we will purposely show our presence in front of them once in a while to hold hands/kiss just to encourage them to do it too and to help break the ice. if we know one or both of them are shy, we'll keep doing it and go off to do our own thing, like shopping at different stores, watch a different move than them, maybe buy ice cream, and then we will call or text the other couple to meet up for dinner at a restaurant or to meet back up at the car so we can head to a restaurant to eat.

    some people just need a little help because there are people that don't have much dating experience, some people are 35+ years old and they never had a date/gf until recently, anxiety, shyness, aren't very good at talking and etc., a little boost to their confidence can instant game changer for them. having another couple as their wing man and wing girls to help isn't bad at all.

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  • I think double dates are fun. Takes off a little pressure and they can be less awkward. I do think one on one time is valuable, but that can happen on date 2 once you decide if there is any chemistry. I would not like it if someone ONLY wanted to double date.

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  • Not unless I trusted the friend and the guy she said she was meeting.

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  • Some Ethnic groups, some religious ones, require some kind of 'escort' on dates. Yeah, Ok with that, as I don't expect anything intimate, at first!
    It can be a little disruptive, when the 'brother' or 'cousin' butts in, and asks things, during a conversation with her!
    If you date some, in cultures like those, you have to adapt, and find ways to deal with them, and their 'invasive' questions, and ways!
    Normally, I would be against it, and wanting just private time with her!!

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  • I've never been on a date or in a relationship, but I'd generally imagine that on a date, it would be just the two of us, but if I were going on a date for the first time ever, I don't think a double date would sound too bad, especially if I'm fairly close to one or both halves of the other couple but I imagine both have their pros and cons and I probably wouldn't do double or single dates all the time and would switch it up.

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  • I would! It would take any of the awkwardness away from the first date by having another couple on their first date as well. Of course you can split up at some point but starting out as a double date would be ideal. I've been on some awkward first dates and would really never want to experience that again.

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  • As an INFP I think it's a good idea. Anybody that knows what I'm talking about would probably agree that a double date first date might be the way to go if you're an introvert. We tend to be very awkward in the beginning of any relationship. Two extra people might serve as a great way to minimize the awkward. But If you're an extravert, it might not be a good idea.

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  • Sure why not! As long as it was friendly and I was not cast out of every conversation. oh and the other guy was trying to mix up and date the girl I was dating which I suppose if the other would switch with me it might be alright

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  • I have been on double date for the first date, it was ok but there wasn't no time for my date and I to spend time together and start to get to know each other. She was influenced by the other couple and wouldn't have anything to do with me, because she was a friend of the other couple and they didn't want to share her with me. It is much better dating one on one.

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  • Hummm... that’s strange cause I think it’s too many strangers in one room...
    But if it’s like 2 bros going on a double date with 2 gals... for the first time
    Ya that happens all the time. ... lol.. like all the time

    Just a little weird, if 3 people know each other except that the date

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  • i wouldn’t want a double date to be my first date. The fact that another couple is probably comparing themselves to my date makes the whole thing less natural of a date.

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  • I feel like it would be a fun experience. Would absolutely be open to it. That way, if you don't hit it off with your date you can still make friends with the other members of the group. Could save the night from becoming awkward.

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  • I'd prefer if it's just the two of us since most if not all of our attention will be on eachother. Double dates is something we could go on if all 4 of us know eachother and both couples have gotten more serious/are more comfortable with one another.

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  • On the first date? Nah... that's kinda crucial to get to know them personally. A double date is more of a fun thing to do on dates after and usually something you do when you're actually in a relationship.

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  • I don't think that is such a good ideea becouse on a first date you would want to know the person that you date better and at a good level, being in a double date conversations may tend to go more superficial and everything may get very confussing.

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  • Absolutely. Especially if it's a scenario like, "He/She wants me to find a date for their friend." or "Well, we've been out of the dating game for a while, so how about you set me up and I set you up, and we just go on a double date?" because that's just being a good friend. Look how well it worked for Mike and Phoebe in Friends.

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  • The first few dates are meant for discovery. You learn about each other and see if there's any chemistry. That's best done just the two of you. After you're more comfortable together and know better where you mutually stand, then double dates make sense.

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  • It depends to me, if it's someone I'm being set up with that a friend of mine knows then a double date wouldn't be bad so it takes the tension away a little because both of you know someone that's there and they can help with getting you "in" with the other person.

    But if it's not like that situation then of course a single date would be the way to go so you see how the person acts with it just being you two and have their undivided attention.

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  • Not a good idea for me. I'm going to get confused and probably forget which one I'm on a date with and flirt shamelessly with both of em.

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  • I feel like there would be too much noise and mixed signals being sent. First dates are all about signaling interest, connection and chemistry. I’m a no dawg

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  • Maybe, if, for example, my bud and I were going out with two girls who were also friends with each other.

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  • Yes, and I've gone on group dates as well. Sometimes it's cool to go on a group date because you can figure out which girl you want before you commit to one.

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  • Eh I guess I would if I was really interested in the person but ideally prefer it one on one

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  • Often these days the 'first date' is more of a meet and greet as we meet someone online or through friends and need a time to see if there is any chemistry. I don't consider it to be a first date until I have met someone, know there is a connection, and then I plan a real date with them.

    So to answer your question I think its fine for the meet and greet to be a double date as it is less pressure and allows for more options in conversation. However for the next date I would prefer one on one because I would be into her and want to see how much of a connection exists just the two of us.

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  • I'm open to options to be quite honest, as this would be interesting and two people alone may turn out to be boring sometimes.

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  • No, i would prefer it between two of us. Where we can give eachother our time properly and can better understand eachother.

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  • I mean it wouldn't be a terrible idea, if everyone else was fine with it and that was the planned idea then sure.

    other people to be friendly with, and it's still called a "date"

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  • Too antisocial to date, so even if I somehow grew a desire for human companionship, I'd still not want more than just my date around.

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  • First dates aren't meant to be too serious. You're just feeling the person out so I feel like it's aight.

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  • Incredibly enough I did this recently and it turned out great! It really helped that her friends were very open and cool people

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  • Only if my other suggested it. I'd think it'd be too weird or that we couldn't really connect with other people around.

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  • Wait is this a group sex thing? Ok 👌 I’m in the other guy can sit by the side.

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  • I would prefer a solo date just so that I can get to know him better at first and let him have majority of my attention which is something I want in return

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  • Yes I think the first date should be just the two and no distractions. Leave that for future dates thereafter lol.

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  • If it's with someone I haven't even met before (like a blind date or something) then yes, definitely.
    If it's with someone that I've known and liked for a while then no...

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  • I would much rather prefer a solo one on one first date <3 Otherwise I would feel awkward

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  • I prefer double dates than OnexOne because you can be more comfortable.. in my opinion.

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  • I think it would definitely ease the tension a bit to have another couple there the first time

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  • Yeah, I'd give it a try. I feel like it would take some of the pressure off.

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  • I’ve never been on a tea double date. But I guess it would depend on who it was with. I find that I’m not myself when I hang out with my friends and my crush at the same time.

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  • if it's a blind date and the other couple was setting me up yes otherwise no, if its 3 friends and you it could turn into you just tagging along

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  • Depends on the people. And the circumstances. Some people are shy and feel a bit better if there’s more people around in the first date. But for the most part alone is better

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  • Not on a first date unless I was just making up the numbers to make a friend feel better but I wouldn't be overly happy about it

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  • Preferably no. My friend wants me to go with a guy she found for me but I'm perfectly fine as single.

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  • Sure. I would take a double whammy I have done this plenty of times.

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  • No, first dates are awkward enough, I wouldn't want to subject other people to it!

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  • Um. depends on if he were a mutual friend. If yes, then sure. But if the other couple doesn't know him at all, then no way.

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  • I've done it before. It feels a little safer to be honest.

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  • For a first date probably not but as a couple yes. Fun!

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  • Never been on a date before🤗 but wouldn’t mind having a double date

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  • Yes becuz my mom wouldn't let me go only with my boyfriend anyway

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  • Sorry, NFW.👎

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  • I’d prefer the first date to be just the two of us

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  • Not for a first date

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  • Helllllll no that's way to awkward

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  • No...

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  • nope

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  • I don't like people enough to do that

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  • Yes. No problem. That would be more interesting.

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  • No way

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  • Nope, no way

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  • Not for the first date

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