I ghosted a boy I liked at my school, we stopped seeing each other, but we still texted. I developed feelings for another boy and ghosted the one I was talking to. Bad news is I have to see him this year at school😬.
Depends on what you mean by ghosting. If a woman isn't showing any interest I just stop trying. I've had numerous that fail to make a date or start a conversation. They're not blocked, but it's been months and none have so much as said hi.
Yes, quite literally. Some girl stopped talking to me entirely for no reason. I got really pissed off until I found out she actually had died. So I was literally "ghosted"
I have the same experince as you. Been ghosted three times this yer by guys I thought things were going well with. No I basically go on a date expecting to be ghosted :(
I went on a date one time met online, talked for a week or so met for bowling. Then she recommended skating, I said ok rode with her and got there and she seen some friends and introdiced me to them snd they seemed uppity. She turns and says in gonna go skate come on out. I did, yeah basically by myself. She ended up hanging out with some ex boyfriend thst showed up halfway through, laughing and carrying on. When she was ready to leave she skated on over and with a surprised look said omg I forgot you were here.
Long quiet ride home, not sure what happened, just the demeanor changed once she actually seen me and t think she continued on anyway just to be polite. No girl understands my shyness and my personality. This was in 2002. hadn't changed all that much.
Then when I tried contacting (yes I give benefit of a doubt to people) she just ignored my calls or instant messages (aol) its clear she was superficial.
@Darknut It would probably be better she wouldn't than to be acting so rude. I hate it when people think its ok to treat insecure eople like shit. I can also be shy and insecure but I don't think it's up to guys to have to unerstand it. I think it is my job to work on and to learn how to express myself and be socially less awkward. I can just hope for men to be understanding.
I think the last guy I met was testing my limits a lot at the end.. first he was very nice and polite to me. But then when he was kind of rude I got insecure and laughed it off. Then he got ruder and it made me even more insecure and I tried to laugh it off to save the mood bc I really wanted it to work between us. Then in the end i tthink he was very rude like straightdown mean and it just made me so sad since i had slept with him too. People are testing if you're a doormat. You think you deserve better but acctually you're testing other people too. Its kind of awful.
I don't really get out that much tbh. Work and home errands, and enjoy the peace of my home. Not really after much else. If by some chance I show interest jn someone (I usually don't) unless i feel sure about it. Lots of fake and fleeting with people nowadays. Ghosting is popular.
I've been ghosted but I haven't ghosted anyone. Ghosting in my opinionis is very imature. If you can't handle rejecting someone then you aren't ready for a relationship.
Yes, I had that happen before and it shook my self esteem and made me question my worth as a partner. I'm better now, but I remember it clearly.
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Have you been ghosted, or from the beginning were you involved in no-strings-attached kind of relationships? Because if that's what you're doing, that you're really not being ghosted.
Well, if you've only met him just once on Saturday, by now it's totally legit to give him a call if you have plans for something you may want to do with him next.
That sounds good. So he's pretty likely to come over this weekend. If he does, he's definitely interested and if not, you'll know where you stand. I'll bet on he shows!
I've been ghosted a lot. I guess it is because I'm so weird it makes them uncomfortable. It reeeeeaaally fucking hurts but a lot of girls just don't care.
I've been ghosted, by my crush. Basically the girl I loved more than anything and I trusted completly, who decided, one day, to stop talking to me. That doesn't help trusting anyone else.
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No because I'm still alive, but when I become a ghost someday, I'll be sure to start ghosting people around :P
Once. Not something I wanted to do. She hung out with me twice and the last time she counted it as a "second date." tried to end things easy, but she wouldn't take a hint.
No. Everyone I've ever known never shuts up. And I would never do this because I extend the curtesy of letting them know why I don't want to talk to them. Good karma!
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I ghosted a boy I liked at my school, we stopped seeing each other, but we still texted. I developed feelings for another boy and ghosted the one I was talking to. Bad news is I have to see him this year at school😬.
Depends on what you mean by ghosting. If a woman isn't showing any interest I just stop trying. I've had numerous that fail to make a date or start a conversation. They're not blocked, but it's been months and none have so much as said hi.
I mean you talk and you actually get together (sex and / or dates) and then you just never hear from them again.
People these days are too cowardly to break up in person. Or even on the phone. Or even after a two year relationship.
Yes, quite literally. Some girl stopped talking to me entirely for no reason. I got really pissed off until I found out she actually had died. So I was literally "ghosted"
Thankfully I've never been ghosted before, then again I've only gone on dates with 3 men my entire life.
I've been ghosted. It has affected me in a way. But wt least you got sex out of it. I never got that far :/
I guess you can say I've ghosted some people. They get their hopes up and a lot of times I'm just not able to follow through.
No kidding!
I have the same experince as you. Been ghosted three times this yer by guys I thought things were going well with. No I basically go on a date expecting to be ghosted :(
I went on a date one time met online, talked for a week or so met for bowling. Then she recommended skating, I said ok rode with her and got there and she seen some friends and introdiced me to them snd they seemed uppity. She turns and says in gonna go skate come on out. I did, yeah basically by myself. She ended up hanging out with some ex boyfriend thst showed up halfway through, laughing and carrying on. When she was ready to leave she skated on over and with a surprised look said omg I forgot you were here.
@Darknut That's straight down rude, testing and insecure behaviour...
Long quiet ride home, not sure what happened, just the demeanor changed once she actually seen me and t think she continued on anyway just to be polite. No girl understands my shyness and my personality. This was in 2002. hadn't changed all that much.
Then when I tried contacting (yes I give benefit of a doubt to people) she just ignored my calls or instant messages (aol) its clear she was superficial.
@Darknut It would probably be better she wouldn't than to be acting so rude. I hate it when people think its ok to treat insecure eople like shit. I can also be shy and insecure but I don't think it's up to guys to have to unerstand it. I think it is my job to work on and to learn how to express myself and be socially less awkward. I can just hope for men to be understanding.
I think the last guy I met was testing my limits a lot at the end.. first he was very nice and polite to me. But then when he was kind of rude I got insecure and laughed it off. Then he got ruder and it made me even more insecure and I tried to laugh it off to save the mood bc I really wanted it to work between us. Then in the end i tthink he was very rude like straightdown mean and it just made me so sad since i had slept with him too. People are testing if you're a doormat. You think you deserve better but acctually you're testing other people too. Its kind of awful.
I just never seen it before
@Darknut Seen what?
I don't really get out that much tbh. Work and home errands, and enjoy the peace of my home. Not really after much else. If by some chance I show interest jn someone (I usually don't) unless i feel sure about it. Lots of fake and fleeting with people nowadays. Ghosting is popular.
Anon, like your thoughts.. PM me sometime
And yet you don't write any reply
Recently on Here, dear, But I feel they are still Near. xx
I ghost a lot my friend calls me the ghost... wwooohh
I've been ghosted but I haven't ghosted anyone. Ghosting in my opinionis is very imature. If you can't handle rejecting someone then you aren't ready for a relationship.
Yes, I had that happen before and it shook my self esteem and made me question my worth as a partner. I'm better now, but I remember it clearly.
Have you been ghosted, or from the beginning were you involved in no-strings-attached kind of relationships? Because if that's what you're doing, that you're really not being ghosted.
no strings attached relationship would be, like, sleeping together more than once. we talk, we sleep together, then I don’t hear from them again.
thankfully found a dude who’s different.
Good for you. Sounds like you don't need to worry about it anymore then. How's it going with him?
I don’t know, I have to figure out how to deal with him not being a huge texter. but it’s early enough on it feels weird calling him. so.
just going with the flow.
How often do you see him in person?
we just met Saturday night.
Well, if you've only met him just once on Saturday, by now it's totally legit to give him a call if you have plans for something you may want to do with him next.
I sent him a message and I got left on read a couple times and the third time I was like
“idek why you’re ignoring me and obviously I don’t listen to myself when I say i’ll leave you alone lmao, but just come over this weekend 🙄”
and he finally replied to that one apologizing and saying to not take it personally cause he’s the worst at replying to everyone always
so i probably won’t call him but i’ll message him again this weekend and tell him to come over or something
That sounds good. So he's pretty likely to come over this weekend. If he does, he's definitely interested and if not, you'll know where you stand. I'll bet on he shows!
I've been ghosted a lot. I guess it is because I'm so weird it makes them uncomfortable. It reeeeeaaally fucking hurts but a lot of girls just don't care.
I've been ghosted, by my crush. Basically the girl I loved more than anything and I trusted completly, who decided, one day, to stop talking to me.
That doesn't help trusting anyone else.
No because I'm still alive, but when I become a ghost someday, I'll be sure to start ghosting people around :P
yeah I don't know but seem like every woman i get close or do the dirty deed with, seem to ghosted me sooner or later, it sucks right?
Yeah, online dating is ass. I don't know why people do it.
Once. Not something I wanted to do. She hung out with me twice and the last time she counted it as a "second date." tried to end things easy, but she wouldn't take a hint.
No. Everyone I've ever known never shuts up. And I would never do this because I extend the curtesy of letting them know why I don't want to talk to them. Good karma!
I've ghosted and been ghosted I don't think it impacts dating just sometimes you need to