He doesn't talk or flirt with any girls
He just talk to his female workfriends about work and stufd
And he was talking to one of his good guy friends whos married
And then my boyfriend said to him "yeah i changed gym, there's so many hot Asian girls, you should come bro lol"
Why would he say that?
Im Asian myself
Should i be upset about this?
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This is just an impression I'm getting which could be horribly wrong. I think he's bragging about you. I get the impression what he's saying is essentially "Come see what you're missing out on, I have a hot Asian girlfriend and you don't." Now I find this inappropriate either way because his friend has a wife. However, I don't necessarily think he's wanting to be with the girls at the gym.
If you're looking for advice, mine would be this: Ask to go to the gym with your boyfriend. Work out with him. If something is wrong it will probably come to light and if not... working out with your man is still a really good way to build up the relationship. Hope it works out :)
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He was probably wingman-ing for his friend, acknowledging that other hot girls exist aren't a problem.
My guy friends compliment me and I compliment my guy friends on them being hot/attractive if they're wearing something nice or put a little effort into their appearence, doesn't mean I feel the need to cheat on my boyfriend or vice versa, it's just giving my friends validation and making them happy, the same as I would with my girl friends- as long as he's not flirting/cheating with other girls I wouldn't worry.
1) Why are you invading your boyfriend's privacy? Would you like yours invaded?
2) I'm sure you've noticed attractive guy and said so around your friends. I feel he's doing the same. The difference in this scenario is that he may be ogling them (which many men admit that they are likely to do).
What I would do is confront him (while apologizing for perusing his messages) and tell him you find it disrespectful working out while ogling women, continuing to state that he most definitely wouldn't like it if you did the same.